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January 2014 Blog Posts (47)

Big day for Ron !

Today is a big day for me :-)

It's the last day of my 40th year at my job.

I am an engineer. Over the years I have worked on almost everything that John Deere makes. Some projects very small and some very big. My first love is Tractors. I decided this was what I would do with my life when I was 16 driving…


Added by RonB on January 6, 2014 at 7:08am — 5 Comments

1 year without my love

Well it has been 1 year now. I lost my love on 1-3 of 2013. I am so glad to be in a new year, Im not sure why, I still feel the same, but I suppose just to be done with the worse year of my life. I still cant wrap my head around it sometimes, I cant believe I have been alone for a year. I am glad to be past the year mark, not that I think anything magical will happen, and I will be suddenly healed, but just to know that I made it a year. It shows me that I can make it 2, 3, 5, 10, and so on.…


Added by JK (OK) on January 5, 2014 at 3:46pm — 4 Comments

What a Catch !

Our minister spoke about the Devil today. It reminded me of my Wife. (in a good way - read on)

Sometimes I fill in for the sermon; when the minister is away, or just needs a break.

I was doing so several years ago; the topic was the Devil.

The Greek word that gets translated 'Devil' is…


Added by RonB on January 5, 2014 at 10:19am — 2 Comments

Surviving The Holidays

I thought I was being proactive. I was pretty sure that I would find it hard to be alone for Christmas Day. Even if I did invite my daughter and her husband over for supper, I knew that they would only be there for a few hours and the rest of the day would be spent alone. So I took some advice from another widow and asked my daughter if I could have a “sleepover” at her house. We had a wonderful time. Very low key but it was nice to have someone else to talk to. For me, it didn’t matter if I…


Added by shelleyb57 on January 5, 2014 at 12:18am — 4 Comments

How long until the pain subsides?

I know that everyone is individually experiencing this journey. I know there is no time table, no rights or wrongs. But it seems to me that a great many people are able to FUNCTION better than I can. It has been fourteen months since my husband died. I still feel pain with every thought of him and of the life I lost as well. I want desperately to feel happy again. I want to be able to relish the "now" and live every moment. I read all the time that life is a gift and I should gratefully savor… Continue

Added by Susan on January 3, 2014 at 6:18pm — 2 Comments

Paying respect

19 months after burying my husband and 7 months after completing a questionnaire I got a call from the grounds keeper of Camp Butler Cemetery. I gave them a very poor review. It took 12 months to put sod around three crematory sections. It hurt to see a simplistic marker surrounded by mud and a few weeds. My heart sank with my heels each time I visited and there isnt a single bench in the entire place. Not to mention they got his rank wrong in the beginng and had to remake the marker. My… Continue

Added by Mrs G on January 3, 2014 at 8:30am — 2 Comments


This was published in a Baptist magazine that my grandmother used to receive when I was a teenager growing up in the 60’s.  I used to go through it and would cut out some of the stories and poems that resonated with me back then.  I still have them in a binder I started back then and still take some time to read them again and again.  I wish I had written down what the complete article said.


Encountering one of the healthiest and…


Added by Morgana (Janet) on January 1, 2014 at 12:14pm — 2 Comments

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