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January 2015 Blog Posts (34)

helping others helps me

I got up too early, have finished my list of chores for today  so nothing to do till I go to a funeral this afternoon, my second for the year.  My role as a pastoral worker in the church means I go to many of those through the year. Most are not close friends but some have become so through many visits and many shared cups of tea. Sometimes death seems all around as I go through the nursing homes and retirement village on my visiting rounds but there is life and laughter too. Some of the…

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Added by only1sue on January 29, 2015 at 1:21pm — 1 Comment

Unwed "widow" of a married man at a Widow's Dinner

Last night I attended another Widow Dinner. The first was a wonderful experience, I felt like I had found a home group that would not judge me for being an Unwed less than 30 year old "widow". Last night I realized how wrong I was. 

Last night they had asked us to bring pictures of our spouses so we could sort of memorialize them.. Or that is what it turned into. Everyone spoke so elegantly about their love and the time they shared, and even about the illness or sudden loss. 

I…

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Added by ShelisJenkins (TiffanyLynn) on January 27, 2015 at 7:30am — 6 Comments

The Pavers... Thank You..

This is a about the Pavers.. Those who started this site, and those who keep it going .. I am in debted to those who started and wish to thank them from the depths of my heart. For w/o you , I have no clue what state of mind I would be in.. Your unselfish actions and love for others has brought so many together to share and endure this thing called grief. No glory wanted for yourselves , nor asking anything for yourselves, Just the giving of yourselves unto others.. I applaud you, I admire…

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Added by BESTBUDS1 [Norman} on January 27, 2015 at 6:41am — 2 Comments

Chapters

I am so grateful for my friends. I've been blessed with a few close ones and some who have been becoming close as a result of this loss, many of whom have endured losses themselves.



On Friday I had a really good visit from a friend. He hasn't endured loss in his life, but he gets my loss – I'm not sure why, but I'm grateful for it. I appreciate him more than he can possibly understand.



This visit he showed up with flowersand replacement journal since I had filled my latest… Continue

Added by Lakelady on January 25, 2015 at 3:55pm — No Comments

Getting my memorial tattoo. 1-25-15

From the day B  passed away, I knew I was goinig to get a tattoo for him. 

When we first started talking, I asked him how he felt about dating a girl that had no body piercings or tattoos, he simply replied "I want to take that virginity " Today he did just that. 

Over the past few weeks a lot of design ideas crossed my mind. I wanted to get the word "Promise" in his hand writing on my pinky. After "searching" I could not find the word, in the hand writing i came to know and…

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Added by ShelisJenkins (TiffanyLynn) on January 25, 2015 at 1:30pm — 9 Comments

When I die if you  need to weep Cry for your brother or sister, wife or husband Walking the stret beside you And when you need me put your arms around anyone And give them what you need to give me I…

When I die if you  need to weep

Cry for your brother or sister, wife or husband

Walking the stret beside you

And when you need me put your arms around anyone

And give them what you need to give me

I want to leave you something

Something better tha words or sounds

Look for me in the people I've known or loved

and if you cannot give me away

At least let me live in your eyes and not on your mind.

You…

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Added by Gardenman46 (Neal) on January 25, 2015 at 12:03pm — No Comments

poem

She whom we love

and lose

is no longer

where she was before,

she is now wherever we are.

Added by Gardenman46 (Neal) on January 25, 2015 at 11:57am — No Comments

The Unconditional Love Of The Living or Dying Spouse......

Here Goes!!!!!! In my journey with my wonderful wife, i was taught and trained in many things , i had never learned, and some i had never heard of.. I won't go into any except this one, and it is probably the hardest.... Each of us whether our spouse was taken suddenly or a declining passing, know who we lived with, their wishes, their wants , their needs , their desires, and to me what they wanted for us as well as what we would want  for them in their absence in body.. My wife was…

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Added by BESTBUDS1 [Norman} on January 25, 2015 at 4:23am — 2 Comments

Showing Up

My friend is dying. I don’t know if she has weeks or months or even just days. My sense is weeks or a month—maybe more-- but that isn’t based on any real knowledge, just a feeling.  I went to see her yesterday. It was hard and I had some fear and reservations before going.  Showing up. Before Ron’s cancer and death I learned about the power and the absolute necessity in life of simply showing up from the author Anne Lamott. I didn’t have enough compassion or sensitivity or awareness or…

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Added by MissingRKK on January 25, 2015 at 3:30am — 7 Comments

8 months

 Its been a Long hard 8 months

  Im posting the recording she left me... the First 3 mins or so Is for Me.. the rest is for Her Family. I think the Battery in her phone Died before she finished what she had to say.

 If You listen to this Its a Tear Jerker.   she had a Vision the night she recorded this. Because she told me about It, But I did not know about this recording.. this was  Exactly 30 days to the day she passed away.. and it was Found by my son exactly 30 days…

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Added by hog659(Neal) on January 24, 2015 at 5:30pm — No Comments

Dancing Toward the Edges

Early on, when loss shattered the life I had so painstakingly created and loved,  I couldn't see how anything or any place whatsoever could feel correct or right again,  let alone actually good and content again. Early on the grief was so all encompassing, I was surprised that anything continued on at all, even bodily needs. I remember having to pee so badly a week or so after John died and thinking to myself, “how is the still going on? I haven't eaten. I haven't slept. I haven't drank…

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Added by flannery on January 24, 2015 at 8:30am — 4 Comments

Some downtime thinking

I stepped on a rake in my backyard on Thursday late in the afternoon a few day after  wrote the last blog.  I put one of the prongs through my shoe into the fleshy part under my big toe. I had some problems pulling it out, it was very painful to do that and I am not that brave but finally I could limp back into the house. I was struggling to get down the steps so I knew it was going to be pretty painful and I was right three weeks later it is still…

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Added by only1sue on January 24, 2015 at 2:00am — 1 Comment

whales where I live

Added by Lori new start on January 22, 2015 at 2:41pm — 1 Comment

A Widow’s View: 5 New Year's Resolutions to Wholeness

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Added by Sabra on January 19, 2015 at 4:27am — No Comments

Self Loathing and Forgiveness

Today at the meetings I attend (not loss related) the topic was about forgiveness. At first I thought the topic would be like all the rest, vaguely apply to me and i'd leave slightly clear headed. 

Today however, i felt like I was hit with a bus of self loathing and hate. I was talking to my sister out of law, about how much I missed Blaine and how I keep thinking he will come back.. I'm not sure what I heard but something in me just had a revelation. 

I do NOT forgive, or even…

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Added by ShelisJenkins (TiffanyLynn) on January 17, 2015 at 3:09pm — 1 Comment

Three Full Years a Widow

The third sadiversary of Don’s passing is coming up soon and I don’t know how to feel about that. I do know that I’ve let him go and I am at peace with where he’s at. But I still think of him daily. How could I not? I often feel him still around me. It may seem overly dramatic to quote a well-known poem here but I’m going to do it anyway. It was printed on the remembrance cards handed out at Don’s memorial service and sometimes when I read it, it speaks so softly to me I can barely hear…
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Added by Blue Snow on January 17, 2015 at 9:04am — 7 Comments

my kids and my sunshine

Added by Lori new start on January 15, 2015 at 7:57pm — No Comments

2015 A New Year

  Well, I've made it through most of the second set of holidays. Charlies birthday would have been Jan,6th. He would have been 64.  That's the end of the biggies till May which will be Mothers Day, my birthday and would have been our 46th anniversary.

  There are days I don't think I'll ever be really happy again. Then there are days I believe I've put my grief behind me. Oh what pranksters our minds are. It's different day to day, week to week, month to month.

  I am resolved…

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Added by Charlies wife on January 10, 2015 at 6:30pm — 2 Comments

Tough days

Thank you for your comments and support it really does help,had a tough couple days .water pipes froze last nite was 23 here in fla.threw myself on the kitchen floor crying for 2 hours but it wasn't really the froze pipes that was the catapult that set me off.I looked outside and saw his boat and truck realizing I would never stand there and watch him hook to his boat again.we commercial fished together for 32 years that was some of the most peaceful times we had together on the water.I…

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Added by susanfrmfla on January 8, 2015 at 8:02pm — 1 Comment

Time

Today is one year since my life was turned upside down and I lost my best friend of 35 years, husband of 31 years. This quote tells how I feel at this point in this horrible journey.

Death changes everything. Time changes nothing. I still miss the sound of your voice, the wisdom in your advice, the stories of your life and just being in your presence. So NO, time changes nothing. I still miss you just as much today as I did the day you died. I just miss…

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Added by Denial on January 8, 2015 at 6:52pm — No Comments

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