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March 2019 Blog Posts (10)

Surviving grief

There are countless issues around the passing of someone you love. There are also countless emotions. 

I wrote about all of the experiences I faced and have uploaded my audio book which may help you. The podcasts are not too long and I will be adding more in the next few weeks. 

This is the link

My husband died just over a year ago. I hope hearing…


Added by Wendy on March 30, 2019 at 4:00pm — No Comments

More decisions I'd prefer not to make

Sometimes I want someone to put their arm across my shoulders, give me a squeeze and say : "You're okay mate, you're going to get through this and be better than ever." Unfortunately I don't have that person now and I have doubts about the " better than ever". I miss Ray so much, not the man he was necessarily when he died so much as the man he was in his middle years, that strong,  patient man who was my rock. That is the man who helped me bring up our kids. That was the man who didn't seem…


Added by only1sue on March 29, 2019 at 6:27pm — 4 Comments

When I Close My Eyes

When I close my eyes, in the after image of the world still held there, I can catch you standing beside me. 

When I close my eyes, I see that sneaky little grin that told me you were about to be up to something. 

When I close my eyes, I see the you from before cancer decided to change your appearance but not your heart. 

When I close my eyes, the world seems oddly brighter and more colorful because you are there with me. 

When I close my eyes, I wish I never had…


Added by MidnightBear (Tony) on March 27, 2019 at 2:34am — 1 Comment

Donna, A Photo Memoir Of Love and Loss

My wife Donna died in 2011. I was blessed to find Widowed Village and be introduced to Michele Neff Hernandez.

Early on in the group widowed in 2011 I found voices similar to mine who shared my fears and my grief. Voices that face the same struggles I did. I found my footing here and other places. Though in all honesty I will not abandon (close) my grief because I see closure as indifference and denial said pretty. I will not abandon Donna's memory or our/my love. My grief was a path…


Added by Mark99 on March 18, 2019 at 7:03am — No Comments

35 Days

In 35 days my new year will begin. My new year of being a widow. I will finally have closed on my new house and should have moved. I have dealt with countless government agencies and started or stopped various things. I still cry almost every day. It is not as bad as the soul shattering relentless grief of the beginning. However I still find myself screaming into my pillow at times. I have done pretty much nothing people told me to do and stumbled around and did things my own way. I came…


Added by Tekwriter on March 18, 2019 at 6:05am — No Comments


Hi Lostandlonely,

I do have a suggestion. Try contacting Jennifer at the Heart Light Center in Denver CO,

Heartlight Center Inc., Grief Support in Denver Metro ; (720) 748-9908

When you reach Jennifer tell her where you are and that I suggested you call her. Ask her if she might have a suggestion for you for a Grief Group where you live or near by. With her professional…


Added by Frank on March 13, 2019 at 3:23pm — 1 Comment

She Loved

She will Never hold his hand again

She will never hear him say her name again

She will never see his boyish smile again

She will never hear him say I love you again

She will never hear him say "it's going to be ok" again

She will always love him, that is certain

She will always be thankful for having him in her life

She will never forget the happiness she felt and shared with him

She will never regret one moment of their lives…


Added by Lisa_says on March 7, 2019 at 5:48pm — 3 Comments


The death of Tom has left me with profound sadness

39 years was just not enough time together

In the beginning I was just trying to survive his death

How do I move on/or through this terrible emotion: grief

Will I ever feel normal again

Time does not heal all wounds, but I will strive to come out the other side of grief

The sadness and despair will soften and fade with work and time

The grief of his death will always be mine to carry, but I…


Added by jlsrdh on March 5, 2019 at 12:04pm — No Comments


I know so many of us are in so many ways stuck in neutral.  Holding our breath, waiting for what we have been facing to go away, but it never will.  I find myself stuck in new ways.  I decided about 2 months ago to open the chance of finding someone new to bring into my life.  To open my heart to the possibility.  So I jumped on the online dating bandwagon.  Being a computer person and also a person who worked specifically in computer security, I actually relished the random fake profile…


Added by MidnightBear (Tony) on March 2, 2019 at 11:30am — 4 Comments

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