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May 2016 Blog Posts (11)

My Fifth Memorial Day

I have mentioned the term 'Memorial Day' in twenty-four blog entries in my personal blog (The Misadventures of Widowhood). I know this because the ‘search this blog’ feature mysterious started working again and since I’m a statistics kind of person, I’m happy about that. Though, honestly, sometimes I wonder why I still bother to reread past posts in an effort to take my widowhood temperature, comparing earlier…

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Added by Blue Snow on May 30, 2016 at 7:00am — No Comments

Viewing it all from a distance

I have just been to visit my son, the one who lives on the edge of a desert.  I always seem to see things different from there.  Where I live we have all the amenities of large coastal towns, where he lives life is tough and only the barest amenities exist.  Where I live most people are retired, seem financially comfortable and looking forward to the future, where he lives people are being retrenched and had to retire long before they were ready to do so. The whole of the small city which…

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Added by only1sue on May 19, 2016 at 12:47am — 3 Comments

When I Lost You

I wish i could see you one more time

Come walking thru the door

But I know that is impossible

I will hear your voice no more…

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Added by sraines72 on May 14, 2016 at 8:06pm — 1 Comment

Creating a Life

Its been 10months and while I don't cry as much and have accepted he is gone what remains is this need to find a foundation and to build a life for myself without him. I go through the motions...joined groups, met widows, spend time with family, etc. etc. but  what remains is a fragment of what my life was like with him. I died with him. Now  I want to carry on and find peace and a measure of contentment but where to start...what will make my life feel like it makes sense? I do not know but…

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Added by Hope on May 14, 2016 at 10:47am — 2 Comments

Creating a Life

Its been 10months and while I don't cry as much and have accepted he is gone what remains is this need to find a foundation and to build a life for myself without him. I go through the motions...joined groups, met widows, spend time with family, etc. etc. but  what remains is a fragment of what my life was like with him. I died with him. Now  I want to carry on and find peace and a measure of contentment but where to start...what will make my life feel like it makes sense? I do not know but…

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Added by Hope on May 14, 2016 at 10:47am — 1 Comment

Creating a Life

Its been 10months and while I don't cry as much and have accepted he is gone what remains is this need to find a foundation and to build a life for myself without him. I go through the motions...joined groups, met widows, spend time with family, etc. etc. but  what remains is a fragment of what my life was like with him. I died with him. Now  I want to carry on and find peace and a measure of contentment but where to start...what will make my life feel like it makes sense? I do not know but…

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Added by Hope on May 14, 2016 at 10:47am — 1 Comment

adjusting

I was having a bad day yesterday It has always been my day I loved Friday the 13th even when I was a kid I was a strange child. It only comes around a few times a year and it was my day for fun. To me it was my birthday, Christmas,and Halloween all warped up in one day. This year I felt so guilty for even thinking of my special day. I think about everything I could of done differently. I could of been a better wife and friend to Mike and him to me. I could of kept him home that morning and…

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Added by lee on May 14, 2016 at 7:54am — 1 Comment

Mothers Day unspoken.

I was hard for my 2 daughs, although they did not mention it at all. I think that is how I knew. They are 23 and 20 and still at home, but heading off to stay at college in the fall. The younger did want a hug and cried on my shoulder, but there was no discussion from either of them, and I did not ask. We are normally very open about our thoughts and feelings, but today I just sensed that nothing needed to be said. Naturally I miss my wife, but I feel very sad for my girls. Facing…

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Added by DavidB on May 8, 2016 at 7:45pm — 1 Comment

Mike I want to tell you

Mike I just want to tell you that 

I miss having you sitting next to me on the couch controlling the remote

I miss you calling me when you get home because you got home and I was not their

I miss having to be the dd when we got out

I miss hearing you snore 

I miss hearing your phone ring and ring and ring because you don;t want to talk but you wont shut your phone off

I miss your dirty clothes on the floor a foot away from the clothes hamper

I…

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Added by lee on May 8, 2016 at 4:51pm — 2 Comments

The H Word

I haven't been a big fan of the word "healing" since my husband died. That word just didn't sit right with me for a while. It felt too tidy, too neat. It didn't describe a way out of this mess to my shocked brain. I think I'm ready to take another look at it. I think I might be ready to give it a chance. If you ask me again tomorrow, I'll probably say something different but tonight, I'm setting an intention to heal.



I don't want to be stuck in this darkness forever. I do not want…

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Added by NoMoreComplete on May 4, 2016 at 9:00pm — 4 Comments

He made the moon shine for me...

I had somebody in this life who just had to look at me for me to see a universe of love.

His smile swirled around me and filled me with joy.

He soaked in my pain with the deepest empathy a human is capable of.

He brought out the best in me, a side of me that I didn't know existed before him. 

We held each other up, creating such a strong foundation that it felt like it would never crumble.

Part of our strength was that we were real.

He had…

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Added by NoMoreComplete on May 1, 2016 at 10:00am — 3 Comments

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