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June 2014 Blog Posts (54)

wintering widow

Another day when it was dark by 5pm and I am shut in my house. This is winter and winter I do not like.  We all tend to shut our doors and stay inside.  We shut out the rest of the community, no waving to neighbours or chatting to people walking their dogs and passing by. So winter is isolating and increases our loneliness.

In winter it is harder to motivate myself to go out at night.  It is harder to motivate myself to go out when the cold rain is pelting down.  Heck it is hard to…

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Added by only1sue on June 14, 2014 at 11:40pm — 1 Comment

Not feeling it today

I woke up this morning and just feel sick to my stomach like the very day he died Feb 26 almost 4 months ago the sickness is grief , I stand looking out my back door and think my life is totally altered yet I am in the same town live in the same house the house we built our life together in with our son and I look out into the back yard the memories flood and I let them but in the same thought it's all gone the life I had with my son and husband. now what! I don't want to leave I want to stay… Continue

Added by 2angelwings on June 13, 2014 at 8:30am — 2 Comments

2 years tomorrow.

2 years tomorrow.

Remembering

Photos

Letters

Feeling your love and presence so strongly.

Tears

Gratitude

Honoring

Letting go of some of the past.

Discovering my new life.

Trusting in the future.

Love you honey.

Added by Mac on June 13, 2014 at 7:37am — 8 Comments

That pain that hits the heart.....

I've never been someone that needed to take down photos of Toby after he died.  I wasn't one that needed to put them all over the place either.  I think I have been middle of the road with photos. Never took any down and never put more up. I can look at them, smile,…

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Added by IndiaKai on June 12, 2014 at 8:30pm — 3 Comments

Good morning

Saw my doctor for some help, both with out-control panic attacks- a chronic problem that runs in my family- and FMLA paperwork for my school system. This is the last week of school- hellish under the best circumstances in a middle school- but my school system in their infinite wisdom only allows 5 days for the death of a spouse so they were insisting I return . My doc listed PTSD due to grief and faxed it, so I am feeling more in control today. I think I'm going to attend a widow support group… Continue

Added by Seeking peace in VA on June 12, 2014 at 6:47am — 3 Comments

DEAD MEN DO NOT REGISTER TO VOTE

This weekend it will be Father's Day, and as a widow still raising a teen boy, the grief wave has hit me already. Grief rears its head unexpectedly and has a life of its own, so I surrender to it and ride the wave until it passes.

Then today in the mail an envelope arrives with my husband's full name on it and I wondered what could this "time sensitive information" actually be, since he has been dead for 30 months. (It's a little late, don't you think? Sorry, a little warped widow…

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Added by Mariposa on June 11, 2014 at 1:16pm — 2 Comments

Another day

I am finding mornings and early evenings most difficult. My grandson spent the night again, so we get up and get dressed then I run him to daycare. My daughter is still here with me but going home to CT this weekend and then I'll be alone in the house. I keep telling myself it will be OK ,but not so sure! One day at a time, right? Or maybe one hour at a time?

Added by Seeking peace in VA on June 11, 2014 at 4:21am — 2 Comments

our wedding day June 11, 1988

Added by Paula on June 10, 2014 at 3:30pm — 3 Comments

Still Can't Believe He's Gone

I lost my husband, David, to stage four non-small cell cancer, adenocarcinoma, on Sunday, June 1, 2014 at 10:44 AM CST.  He died in my arms, exactly one year to the day of his diagnosis.  He was the most courageous man I've ever met.  We were together for nineteen years.

After his diagnosis, Dave started six rounds of chemo treatments from June to November, every three weeks.  At first, he was on Taxol and Carboplatin.  He responded well to the first treatment, with minimal side…

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Added by Marivi 90804 on June 10, 2014 at 11:44am — 6 Comments

Better today

Thanks to everyone who has replied to my first post. Yesterday was my first not bad day- I actually got some things taken care of and my grandson spent the night so I had to get up today to take him to pre-school. I feel alone in a big world and this community has helped me not feel so odd and out- of- the norm. Today is two weeks since I lost my love- I am keeping busy.

Added by Seeking peace in VA on June 10, 2014 at 8:35am — 5 Comments

Second Spring

This year I watched resignedly,

Mother Nature’s turn from winter to spring.

And I didn’t weep or curse or keen,

Against the budding leaves you wouldn’t see.

 

This year I watched resignedly,

The sun emerge, warm and welcoming.

And I didn’t rage or scream or plead,

When wind turned finally to a friendly breeze.

 

This year I watched resignedly.

From sky to sea, new life happening.

And I didn’t keep, but…

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Added by flannery on June 10, 2014 at 7:00am — 1 Comment

Blue bird grieves for its mate amazing photos of love and sorrow

My roses    

When A Bluebird Falls

 
Birds are so fragile and vulnerable. These amazing photos captured a drama with two of these little creatures that is every bit as poignant…
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Added by my roses on June 10, 2014 at 6:22am — No Comments

Changing Drivers

Changing Drivers (Stepping into the drivers seat)
Driving at Laguna Seca Race Track- Nov 10, 2012

Oct 8, 2013

To say my husband loved cars would be an understatement. He bought them as often…

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Added by Not4naught on June 9, 2014 at 7:00pm — 6 Comments

On Grief (part 2)

I still haven't participated much on this site and I'm sorry for that. But I know it has helped me to read other people's experiences both here and on other sites and in books. This I wrote last October (2013) at the 1 year "deathaversary" of my wife Jackie.

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Today marks one year since Jackie passed away. Not really an anniversary one wants to celebrate. It's a difficult time. A time of tragic memory for many of us.

It's hard to believe that it's been a year…

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Added by RevKev on June 9, 2014 at 5:02am — 3 Comments

Looking for guidance,Ithink

I lost my husband of 43years suddenly two weeks ago. I came home from school- I am an eighth- grade teacher- and found him on our bedroom floor. We married very young-I was nineteen and he twenty two, so I've been with him , happily, all of my life. All of a sudden I find myself full of fear, feeling weak and vulnerable and basically a mess. I am beginning to doubt my own strength-what if I can't do this? I have adult children and two grandchildren living close by that I can't disappoint. Am I… Continue

Added by Seeking peace in VA on June 9, 2014 at 4:28am — 6 Comments

Introduce myself...new to this whole "widow" thing

Hello. I just wanted to introduce myself. I just joined this site & am still trying to figure it all out. I just lost my husband at the young at of 30 to a sudden heart attack on January 12th, 2014. Has it already been almost 5 months?? I feels like years since I last saw him but it also feels like just yesterday? These last 4 months have been a complete blur to me. 

Scott was an avid runner/weight lifter. He lived for fitness & playing sports. Both passions of his. He would…

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Added by Bewell12 on June 8, 2014 at 4:17am — 4 Comments

Forgetting

I woke up this morning around 4:30 and thought: "I have enough time to hop in the shower and make a pot of coffee for Tony (my husband) before he gets home from work."  I sat up and realized that the bed wasn't the same one we'd been sleeping in for years and remembered.

Added by Storm-Dancer on June 7, 2014 at 2:03pm — 4 Comments

Help ! 1st. Family Reunion (Her Side) since passing is tomorrow !

Tomorrow is the 1st. family reunion on my wife's side of the family since she passed away 16-weeks ago. Very few if any family know about it. The distance is either too great for them to attend funeral (2-hours drive one way) or they all decided to stay home in the severe winter storm we were having back then. Maybe they just didn care? Hmm.



I'm taking my 2-daughter's just to try and maintain some connection with that part of family for girls. If it weren't for the genetically… Continue

Added by Doug02122014 on June 7, 2014 at 7:43am — 5 Comments

For My Husband

Happy 52nd Birthday Honey!

When Heavens gate opens

As I sit alone at…

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Added by Lisa (lost) Lamb on June 6, 2014 at 10:10pm — 3 Comments

Too much sleep...

Well, today I shot craps.  I spent most of the day in bed.  Unbelievable!  I've done something that I told myself not to do!  I didn't want to get up this morning but the dog needed to go out and be fed.  I read for a little while and then crawled right back into bed.  My son came over about 2:00 to find out if I was still alive.  He'd been texting me for a couple of hours and I hadn't responded.  I did explain to him that if he'd actually called I would have answered the phone.  All my…

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Added by Storm-Dancer on June 5, 2014 at 5:05pm — No Comments

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