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June 2016 Blog Posts (12)

Feeling the winter blues

 I did think that this season of my life would be so different but it is samey, different week, same activities.  But then that is the story of most of our lives isn't it? What can we do in a day to make that day different, to make it stand out from the rest?  To make it memorable? I don't know.  There is a sleepiness about winter that blankets our lives.  Nothing much happens, nothing good, and with a little luck nothing too bad.  Life drifts on from day to day, so I get up, do whatever is…

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Added by only1sue on June 28, 2016 at 3:30pm — 5 Comments

Still seems surreal

Hi Friends - I lost my dear husband of 30 years to Lymphoma and Lung Cancer in November.family and friends have sustained me but I still feel stunned by my loss. Why did this happen? My young adult children lost a great father. I feel like my soul is split in half. I trust God. I know I am still here for a reason by why did Rick have to exit? He was only 60! I read everything I can get my hands on about grief and death and faith. I feel Rick's spirit with me. He would have been a wonderful… Continue

Added by Heartbroken Spirit on June 26, 2016 at 7:11pm — 5 Comments

my first 3 months

Tomorrow will be 3 months from Mike's accident some days it feels so long ago and others it is like yesterday.  I have stopped looking out the window waiting for him to get home.  I have cooked 3 meals in 3 months it is just myself and our 18 year old who is in and out of the house she is fine with take out or a bowl of cereal.  I just do not have the will to cook or even eat, I have lost 20 pounds. I am size 12 so a few pounds off of me is not going to hurt. I try to keep busy with yard…

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Added by lee on June 23, 2016 at 3:00pm — 3 Comments

Does Time heal all wounds?

Life seemed simple when I was growing up, it was after the second World War.  My Dad came back from Prisoner-of-War camp and failed to settle back into the world that emerged from that period.  I guess today we would have called what he had Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, we called it restlessness.Eventually we all emigrated to Australia and we started a new life. I went through school expecting to have a job for a while and then get married and that is what happened.  I expected to have…

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Added by only1sue on June 21, 2016 at 6:44am — 3 Comments

My Loneliness Exposed in Woman's Day

So, a site I write for had a prompt "I am lonely."  I wrote about the loneliness I felt when my husband died and which I still feel sometimes. It's on Woman's Day here:  My Husband was My Best Friend

This was the hardest thing for me to put out there in public. I do wish we were talking more about loneliness. It's sort of the theme of the book I'm writing, but I definitely feel…

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Added by The Hungover Widow on June 20, 2016 at 11:30am — 10 Comments

the beach

my last visit to the beach was with my late husband, Frankie. He was very sick w/cancer and didn't live too much longer after the trip.  He was very weak and unfortunatly the weather had turned cold.He couldn't go outside w/me not even on the balcony. i did get him in on e of

the resorts hot tubes once but he was so frail and his foot was all swollen…

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Added by littlelamb on June 13, 2016 at 3:49am — 1 Comment

Leslie In Los Angeles

I found the following definitions from the website dictionary.com that make up the five descriptive titles found in my blog profile:



Mother - a female parent.



Survivor -…

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Added by Leslie Dianne on June 10, 2016 at 11:25am — 1 Comment

Feeling sad

Yesterday would have been Malcolm's 65th b-day. I went to a National forest area that we used to hike, camp and picnick in for the first time in 13mos since his passing. It was bitter-sweet. I enjoyed all of it but, broke down crying 4 times as I miss him so much. After 13 mos I find myself very empty, sad, heartbroken. It has not improved at all for me. I do lots of activities but, doesn't stop the grief, sadness, and missing him extremely so, and oh.... the loneliness is…

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Added by free on June 9, 2016 at 9:01am — 3 Comments

life is dull without your warm presence

Funny things you think about as a widow, still experiencing that loss after more than three and a half years. Like how good it was getting into bed and putting my feet on a warm husband.  My husband Ray was a diabetic and as such slept much warmer than I did. He used to yowl and complain and say:  "Get your cold feet off of me!" and I would just laugh and snuggle up to him,  Having a warm body to hug is so much better than an electric blanket or hot water bottle.  On a cold dark night when I…

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Added by only1sue on June 9, 2016 at 2:27am — 4 Comments

Memories in stone.

I write some memories in pencil on the back of a used envelope.

Should I paint your name on the door frame or write with sharpies on the wall?

Set up scaffolding and lay on my back to paint your portrait upon the ceiling.

Leave you a note written in bar soap on the bathroom mirror like I used to do.

The time slips away and they mention you so rarely.

But my soul searches for your presence everyday.

Should I paint your name in broad…

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Added by DavidB on June 8, 2016 at 4:18pm — 2 Comments

Finding my way back

Wow, It's been a long time. Another lifetime for sure. I have been away for 3 years now and so much has changed. Although I've remained involved in the widowed community I had completely forgotten that I had a blog here. It's nice to see you friend. I hope you are well. I can't wait to catch up and see what I've missed.



Since I was last here I've had many changes.

The end of a relationship.

A new friendship & marriage.

Seeing my kids grow into happy… Continue

Added by Widow_erDad on June 4, 2016 at 10:19am — 9 Comments

is this nightmare over yet

I am exhausted physically and emotionally I get plenty of sleep but I don't feel rested.  I have not dreamed about anything I close my eyes and wake up.   My whole world has been turned upside down on March 24 2016.  I feel guilty that I let Mike leave the house that morning, my parents are gone Mikes parents are gone although I love my sisters and brother as well as his sisters and brothers, I have a few really good friends. I have my daughters but I feel so alone.  I was at my lawyers…

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Added by lee on June 1, 2016 at 3:33pm — 4 Comments

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