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June 2020 Blog Posts (7)

Good days and blue days

I have run out of interesting things to do. I posted that on my Facebook page and got a mixture of comments. Some people claimed to be very busy, some gave me a run down on what they are  doing to keep occupied, some had some suggestions for me. Our restrictions are lifting a little and so one of the groups I belong to  that were going to be having a picnic in the park on a very rainy day instead booked a table for five in the restaurant of a local Club . One of the ladies said it was her…

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Added by only1sue on June 11, 2020 at 7:11pm — 11 Comments

Death anniversary  "UM NO THANX" I DONT WANT TO CELEBRATE A DAY I WISH NEVER HAPPENED.YOU KNOW WHAT DAY I WISH WOULD HAVE BEEN CELEBRATED BUT NO ONE ACKNOWLEDGED MY ANNIVERSARY OR I WISH I COULD HA…

Death anniversary  "UM NO THANX"

I DONT WANT TO CELEBRATE A DAY I WISH NEVER HAPPENED.YOU KNOW WHAT DAY I WISH WOULD HAVE BEEN CELEBRATED BUT NO ONE ACKNOWLEDGED MY ANNIVERSARY OR I WISH I COULD HAVE CELEBRATED VALENTINES DAY LIKE WE DID EVERY YEAR MY HUSBAND AND I. HE ALWAYS MADE IT SO SPECIAL.

Celebrating the day…

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Added by CryinCali on June 9, 2020 at 4:57pm — 4 Comments

Here's proof it can be done...

I'm such a visual person, I began thinking about what it looks like to continue to grow as a person through grief while posting to "There's a Hole" ---my thoughts wandered to the trees I've seen high up in the mountains standing tall and strong all the while rooted in rock.  I visualized what the little seed must have gone through while it continued to thrive.  I choose to believe those types of illustrations are God's way of showing us we can both survive and…

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Added by Rainy (Misty) on June 9, 2020 at 5:30am — 5 Comments

Suddenly the sole parent - is anyone else out there in this situation ?

I am searching for people (men or women) in similar situations as what I am experiencing.  My wonderful wife of 23 years passed away 10 weeks ago after a 5 month illness. I am faced to deal with everything - is anyone else like this and feeling overwhelmed or who I can converse with about picking up the pieces  ?  I have two wonderful sons, not little but not on their own yet, two dogs and work a full time job (more than 40 hours/week of responsibility).  Time to grieve and dwell on the past…

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Added by Oskar Ruettiger on June 8, 2020 at 5:13pm — 8 Comments

There's A Hole

     One of the things I have learned about the grief of a spouse that quite surprised me really, is that I'm not just grieving the loss of my soulmate. I'm grieving the loss of part of myself. I feel like the best part of me, that person he fell in love with, died when he did. I used to have this incredible zest for life. To me, each new day with him was an exciting new adventure. I viewed our world with optimism and childlike wonder as long as he was in it.…

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Added by ScarletPlumes on June 6, 2020 at 9:45am — 6 Comments

Chasing Memories

It's been a long time since I became a Widow. Over 8 years have past since that previous life- it's like a previous reincarnation of myself- so far separated are the two of us. Her with the husband and the promise of new adventures. And me.

It's a funny thing what your mind does with painful memories. Over time, like the river smoothing down the rough edges of a sharp stone, it bends and softens them. At first, you grasp onto them so tightly, that they are difficult to unwind. But…

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Added by OriRising on June 5, 2020 at 3:55pm — 4 Comments

So, I ponder.....

When Tom died I relied a great deal on friends and family, like I'm sure we all did and possibly still do.  I would not throw away my friends for a thousand years, they have been my strength.  I have a few very close friends that I basically talk to about everything I am thinking and going through, this is why I say I don't need therapy, I have my friends to talk to.  Friends that I don't have to tell my back story to, friends that know what I have been through and just know who I am.  I'm…

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Added by TeresaNY on June 2, 2020 at 4:34am — 7 Comments

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