I have run out of interesting things to do. I posted that on my Facebook page and got a mixture of comments. Some people claimed to be very busy, some gave me a run down on what they are doing to keep occupied, some had some suggestions for me. Our restrictions are lifting a little and so one of the groups I belong to that were going to be having a picnic in the park on a very rainy day instead booked a table for five in the restaurant of a local Club . One of the ladies said it was her…Continue
Death anniversary "UM NO THANX"
I DONT WANT TO CELEBRATE A DAY I WISH NEVER HAPPENED.YOU KNOW WHAT DAY I WISH WOULD HAVE BEEN CELEBRATED BUT NO ONE ACKNOWLEDGED MY ANNIVERSARY OR I WISH I COULD HAVE CELEBRATED VALENTINES DAY LIKE WE DID EVERY YEAR MY HUSBAND AND I. HE ALWAYS MADE IT SO SPECIAL.
Celebrating the day…
I'm such a visual person, I began thinking about what it looks like to continue to grow as a person through grief while posting to "There's a Hole" ---my thoughts wandered to the trees I've seen high up in the mountains standing tall and strong all the while rooted in rock. I visualized what the little seed must have gone through while it continued to thrive. I choose to believe those types of illustrations are God's way of showing us we can both survive and…Continue
I am searching for people (men or women) in similar situations as what I am experiencing. My wonderful wife of 23 years passed away 10 weeks ago after a 5 month illness. I am faced to deal with everything - is anyone else like this and feeling overwhelmed or who I can converse with about picking up the pieces ? I have two wonderful sons, not little but not on their own yet, two dogs and work a full time job (more than 40 hours/week of responsibility). Time to grieve and dwell on the past…Continue
One of the things I have learned about the grief of a spouse that quite surprised me really, is that I'm not just grieving the loss of my soulmate. I'm grieving the loss of part of myself. I feel like the best part of me, that person he fell in love with, died when he did. I used to have this incredible zest for life. To me, each new day with him was an exciting new adventure. I viewed our world with optimism and childlike wonder as long as he was in it.…Continue
It's been a long time since I became a Widow. Over 8 years have past since that previous life- it's like a previous reincarnation of myself- so far separated are the two of us. Her with the husband and the promise of new adventures. And me.
It's a funny thing what your mind does with painful memories. Over time, like the river smoothing down the rough edges of a sharp stone, it bends and softens them. At first, you grasp onto them so tightly, that they are difficult to unwind. But…Continue
When Tom died I relied a great deal on friends and family, like I'm sure we all did and possibly still do. I would not throw away my friends for a thousand years, they have been my strength. I have a few very close friends that I basically talk to about everything I am thinking and going through, this is why I say I don't need therapy, I have my friends to talk to. Friends that I don't have to tell my back story to, friends that know what I have been through and just know who I am. I'm…Continue