Two weeks ago I found out that my closest friend is about to become a widow. We have known each other for 30 years and in that time she has seen me go through a painful a divorce, being a single mom, a wonderful new marriage and now, widowhood. Her marriage has been a constant in my life. She is like my sister, and her husband is the closest thing I've ever had to a brother. He's the kind of man that can fix anything and insists on doing it for free and will give you the shirt off his…Continue
I remember a brain teaser in grade school where you had to figure out how to get three cannibals and three missionaries across a river in a small boat built for only two passengers. To prevent a disaster, there can never be more cannibals than missionaries together.
Somehow, I always think of my brothers as the cannibals and me rowing the boat. I never worry about the missionaries-I just have to make…
Added by barbstar54 on July 24, 2013 at 2:30am — No Comments
So what should a grieving widow do months from losing the love of her life? A three day juice cleanse seems appropriate. I figured a little more torture wouldn’t hurt me. And if I could make it through those horrible two weeks in January, I could handle 21 bottles of juice for goodness sake.
My adorable yoga instructor conducted a three day yoga workshop and juice cleanse this past Friday through Sunday, promising us lots. I expected little. I love my green juices that I purchase…Continue
Today was fun. I found the nicest group of people to hang out with. They have all lost a spouse. Having that in common makes for a peaceful, compassionate and supportive environment right off the bat! One of the ladies is offering to teach us watercolor painting and we had our first class today.
Only a couple in the group had much experience with art, but we all had a great time and found it very therapeutic. I have found it to be really…Continue
I had to unfriend another Facebook 'friend' Friday night....this time it happened to be a cousin and I've known for years the kind of person she is. I was really struggling that night missing Rod, and posted some sad songs I had stuck in my head. She commented on one of them, "Oh, I see it's another one of THOSE days", and then posted on her status, "I have to get off of here, I can't stand people's depressing bullshit anymore." LOL!! Really? YOU can't stand it?? *smh* Try LIVING it, you…Continue
You are all probably wondering why i haven't been that active on Widville but saying that i am around on facebook,i have made many friends over the years through social networking,purely because of promoting my art and photography,but now i am faced with a different predicament a Widower at 43,what does this mean for the life i once had with the people i used to network with on a regular.Well i can socialize and adapt easy so making…Continue
A couple of weeks ago, I made a young woman cry. Not just cry-first she teared up, then sobbed, then wailed, THEN threw herself down in dramatic fashion in loud, convulsive gasps.
And I'm surely going to Hell because I did it in church.
It all started when the music director at my church made a plea for musicians to join the bell choir. She said bells were easy-all you need to know is how to count to four. Sometimes only three. No problem-just like when I…Continue
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I've heard it a thousand times "Sorry for your loss", "Sorry for your loss", "Sorry for your loss" God I've said it to a few myself...so why has it taken me so long to work it out, digest and absorb the words properly and now with meaning Sooo Sorry for your loss ...Duh well yes it was my loss and although the answer has been right in front of me the whole time, belatedly I think I truly begin to understand and actually accept why others can't feel as I do, can't…Continue
This is another post from my private family blog a few months back. I met with a friend while she was in town in April. We met the day of the Boston Marathon to be exact. I am excited for she lives in Tampa and I will be able to share a visit with her before or after Camp Widow East in…Continue
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After everything I've been through, there are those people that want to still hurt me.
And I don't understand why. This is the hardest journey of my life. I've lost everything...
I'm losing faith in the kindness of humanity.
At the age of 25, I've seen so much of both sides of the world.
I experienced deep, passionate love with the most perfect person for me.
In a little over a year, it was ripped away from me by…Continue
You were born with so much love. You filled the hearts of many.
You were born with so many talents. A truly amazing person.
You were born so full of laughter. No one will forget your laugh.
Compassion – it could have been your middle name.
You filled and blessed my life in so many more ways then I could have ever imagined.
I am grateful for your love, our lives, our adventures, our family and so much more……Continue
It is true that I have been on a losing streak since last summer. Casino Craps bosses would take the dice away after the number of snake eyes I can throw in a row and send me packing to their competition. It's bad for business to have a loser on the tables.
So what does a person do who has broken the mirror, while walking under a ladder, with a black cat in in her arms wearing an open umbrella hat?
She buys lottery tickets.
I admit to having…Continue
Added by barbstar54 on July 17, 2013 at 2:30am — No Comments
It has been almost a year now that Zena passed from this world to go to our father in Heaven. When Zena first passed away I thought I wanted to Die.I gave up and just did not care. Only after comeing on to WidowVillage and finding the people like my (current) wife Lori and my church did I decide I wanted to live. I have gone from the east Coast to the west coast and starting all over again. I can say I want to live and explore all the parts of this world I have not seen. I will be…Continue
Inspired by a trip to Mt. Saint Helens
I had a life and it was full
Of children, Mark, machines and medicine.
There was laughter, pain, stories to be told and retold.…Continue
I can't believe that I haven't seen or touched my husband going on 7 months. The last I held his hands was the afternoon of 12/28/12. I wonder if he felt my presence? I wonder if he knew he was leaving me? I wonder if he knew how much I needed him to stay? I wonder if knew that I was sorry for all the arguments we had? I wonder if he knew I would do anything to have him back? I wonder if he knew that that throughout the year I had a sense of foreboding that…Continue
Added by Tanzwife on July 16, 2013 at 1:00pm — No Comments
It's pretty amazing how getting out of our comfort zone can be so.. comforting. Just returned from an 8 hour road trip to Vermont. Since being widowed, I've been doing a fair amount of driving. This trip was "extra special" because my darling daughters and mother were along for the fun. Have you ever had three backseat drivers?
This was originally planned as my Aunt's burial, but the deluge of July rain in Burlington caused that to be postponed.. again. The first…Continue