Good morning everyone on WV!
I hope that your today is filled with the beginnings of a new journey out of the darkness which can envelope us all when we find ourselves suddenly without our loved one. I personally believe that when it happens, it's always sudden and that even when we should know it's coming, we tend to ignore the inevitable and then, it happens, and it's sudden. I know it was with me. My wife had been on borrowed time for several…Continue
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In the early days of my widowhood, one of the hardest things for me to cope with was dealing with my own mortality. All of a sudden I felt incredibly vulnerable. Isn’t it funny how you can be blissfully unaware one day and then the next thing you’re consumed by the thought that tomorrow it might be your turn to die? Let’s face it, the human body is a wonderful but incredibly complex and mysterious thing. There seems to be no reason for some people’s early death. You can be the fittest…Continue
Holidays are still not good days for me. Guess it's just that my 'aloneness' seems emphasized and I find myself missing Vern more on these days. So I do my best to just ignore them. Stay inside, no TV, let the day pass unnoticed. Almost. And maybe this one was rough because it was just a couple of days after my return from Camp Widow. A bit of a Camp crash…Continue
Save me a place beside you
I'll be there soon enough
I know that you have found
the peace you needed for so long
So I won't ask you to come back
Just to ease my aching heart
But I can't stop loving you
And I long to see your face
So save me a place beside you
I'll be there soon enough
Good morning everyone on WV! Today, as you start to recover from yesterday's big bash that probably went on without you, it did me, you'll begin to notice that the sun still rises - in the east! Amazing, isn't it???? I'll bet you thought that because of all the celebrating yesterday and the fact that most of us didn't or couldn't join in that today would be totally different, but to my utter amazement, it's still the same. Just another day! Actually, it is different, because the…Continue
You can call me "Rae".
I'm 25 years old.
So far, that's all that is important, I suppose...
July 4th, 2013
As I sit inside on this Independence Day, listening to the relaxing melodies of Fleet Foxes and the intermittent bangs and booms of the fireworks outside, I'm actually feeling rather lonesome. My husband passed on January 1st (or so says his death certificate) of this year. He'd decided to go out with his…Continue
I'd like to share the blog I wrote today, after I wrote and published my Daily Stanism. The blog talks about two Stanism's I wrote for today's Fourth of July! One I published and the other I didn't. I hope you'll take a moment to read it. More than anything though, I hope that you can find happiness today and tomorrow! Many warm hugs to all of you on WV on this day that's not easy for many! Stan…Continue
I died the day my wife died on 6 August 2012. On that day, at just shortly after noon, she died and along with her death, I felt as though I'd personally died also. We'd been happily married for over 52 years and we had three beautiful sons, many grandchildren, and even a couple of great grandchildren to show for it. For nearly 52 years, we were one and we did everything together. It was as about a perfect a marriage as one could hope for. We went through alot together over the years…Continue
22 months ago I joined a group no one wants to join. A group that many women will join at some point in their lives, some sooner than later. A group so life changing, some people will never be the same again. The group is called widowhood.
One thing I learned very quickly about widowhood is the strong circle of people that quickly surround you and protect you. The circle is made up of other widows. I like to call them a sisterhood.
Members of this special sisterhood know how…Continue
This is the post from my private family blog about what my summer camp experience was like.
Each summer since the summer of 2000 the girls have enjoyed the benefits of different summer camp experiences. They have attended sleep away, girl scout, sports, theatre or simple day camps. I have always envied them, I so wanted to go to summer camp again. So…Continue
So each year I've tried to DO something to help me move forward. This year was redecorating the
kitchen. There have been a roller coaster of emotions but much less then in previous years. Good indication of my getting further away from bad memories and pain. Every time I walk in the house and see the kitchen (though not completely done yet due to wet weather) I am refreshed…Continue
We all come from different backgrounds of faith. Many of us believe that there is an afterlife. Some believe in heaven. Some believe that the energy of those that have passed does continue on in some form.
Some of us believe that there is some form of a day of reckoning when we pass. We often hear of people seeing their lives played back to them at the moment that they pass...
In many ways, I feel that those of us who have lost the love of our life, the person who we…
Life doesn't always go the way we'd like it to. Sometimes, plans change and our life changes. People that we love, sometimes more than one, die and we are faced with moving on without them. To lose a loved one is one of the most terrible things that can happen in life. When that happens, we must make choices and should think about a few things before making those choices.
There are three places in life that we each face at any given moment – Yesterday, Right Now (Today), and…Continue
I am so grateful for this online community, one very special friend who totally understands loss, and for my therapist.
All of us know how hard it is to lose a spouse, and if you were lucky enough to have children with him/her, the passing of mother's day or father's day is tough.
In a conversation with a friend and I shared how sad i was this Father's Day, the second one without him and 18 months after losing him, the reply from my friend was "Oh, so you are feeling…Continue
OK, the headline’s a bit dramatic. And I’m not gonna say much in this post, just gonna let the pictures speak (they say a lot). Know this, the green Honda on it’s side, with the yellow bumper stickers, that’s mine…Continue
Seems like what I need to do now, in this journey, is honor Billie, remember him, tell others about him, share him. That is what my heart needs most. I need to get some of this out of me, into the light and not so threatening to overwhelm me with running around and around in my mind and soul and heart.
I had so little time with him, healthy, I need more of him, I need for others to appreciate him, I need to still celebrate him. So, I hope no one minds, don't feel obliged…Continue