Today one year ago was Sandy's funeral. The last time I was able to tuck her in to rest peacefully forever. Sandy always went to bed well before I did most nights and I would frequently come up to bed and have to remove her glasses and tuck her in as she would fall asleep reading or watching tv. So one year ago today when I tucked her in and covered her up in the casket is a memory I will never forget. Don't get me wrong it was tough then and also thinking about it now, but am grateful I was…Continue
It's been 13 months. My wife Carla died June 12, 2016. Sunday is her birthday but she's dead so she's not getting any older. I am 47 and I get older every year, but Carla will always be 56. If I ever hear anyone complain about turning 60, I want to punch them.
I was doing reasonably well. In fact, I'm much better now…Continue
Just saw a movie recently where it was obvious the older woman could not let go of the past and I could see how that was hindering her progress in life. I know sometimes that is so me. I want things to be the way they were at some point in my life long gone that I considered looking back was the ideal life. If that can't happen I think I want my present life to be based on that. Well guess what? that is never going to happen. When Ray had the stroke in 1999 I was 43, working part-time,…Continue
It's been 5 years for me. We were married for 28 years. For most of us, things do improve with time. We adjust to this "new life" and we have such a sense of gratitude for so very much! Wishing all the best for you!
There are so many possible combinations in this world.
We travel here, there and everywhere!
We meet so many people.
We do so many things.
We make so many choices. …
Ten years ago today, I married the love of my life.…Continue
Too many times now I have been struck down in sharp grief and reacted in ways I didn't think were lifelike. I keep sailing through this sea, sometimes foggy sometimes not. I get that this is fairly new to me. I get that my journey is only just beginning. I get that there are new surprises around every corner. I just find it startling when my reaction is stronger than expected.
A few months ago I woke screaming from a deep sleep because I heard Vicky screaming for help, as she had…Continue