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August 2017 Blog Posts (5)

Separating emotion from logic...

To start let me give a quick history. My wife Teri and I were married for a little more than 24 years. Four daughters, two granddaughters. We found out this January that she had cancer. She passed on July 3rd.

Like most everyone else here, the sense of loss is all-consuming.

The "what will I do now" question applies to us all.

I've read countless posts, and for the most part I can relate to the writer.

However, I don't want to just relate to other posts, I want a… Continue

Added by mls64 (Mike) on August 30, 2017 at 7:31am — 10 Comments

Being a widowed parent...........

Juggling a full time job and part time job, cleaning the house, doing the laundry, doing the grocery shopping, making all of the meals, making sure the car is properly maintained, taking care of three “high maintenance/special needs” pets, doing all of the yard work (including snow removal each winter), paying the bills, worrying about finances, raising a teenage son and making sure all of his needs are being met as well as taking care of myself, is really, really unbelievably hard. Being…

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Added by journey on August 24, 2017 at 6:29am — 4 Comments

What the eyes don't see

My mother spent a lot of time growing up with an aunt, her mother's older sister.  The aunt spoke often in what we would call cliches or truisms and Mum used a lot of them herself.  Some I agreed with like :  "A stitch in time saves nine" how often did I wish I had mended the falling hem earlier, and "A watched pot never boils" so I had to learn to do something else while I waited for something to cook.  One I have trouble with today is: "What the eye don't see, the heart don't grieve."…

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Added by only1sue on August 21, 2017 at 6:43pm — No Comments

My Grief Is a Child

my grief is a child

wild and unpredictable

stormy and sweet

whiny with dirty fingernails

and sticky fingers.

I need time away

and yet, I also can not stay

away

because it needs me

and I am in love.

It is my child-

our child that we made

together.

It is what is left of us

It is full of us

always just around the 

corner-

playful and demanding

with wet kisses.

He…

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Added by OriRising on August 15, 2017 at 12:47pm — 1 Comment

A week away does me good

I have been away for just over a week, I flew out to Broken Hill as the distance is too great to drive alone.  I stayed with one son and together we drove for seven hours to visit my other son and his family.  This is the only way I have managed to do that trip. I stayed with my younger son at a time when he had his daughter on access, we had a few fun days and then she got sick and we had two unhappy days with her.  That is life when you have a pre-schooler and he always says he loves her…

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Added by only1sue on August 1, 2017 at 8:26pm — 6 Comments

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