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September 2011 Blog Posts (89)

Always on my mind

Walter, it seems you are always on my mind, no matter where I am or what I'm doing. If I'm laughing I think of you, if I'm happy, I think of you, and if I'm sad I long for you because you would tell me that everything is going to be OK,don't worry, and then we would pray and you would wrap me in your arms.  We could sit for hours just like that and not have to say a word. Soulmates. I just miss you, my love and I know I always will.  You are my forever love and I will love you until the day…


Added by freddieb on September 30, 2011 at 8:41pm — 3 Comments

One Thousand, Three Hundred & Seventy-nine Days ....

Picture from here

.... since I've heard three small words.

I heard, or rather, read them yesterday.

And I was… Continue

Added by Janine (txmomx6) on September 30, 2011 at 6:57am — 4 Comments

Group Grief Counselling Session

Well I had our grief support group on Tuesday night and we had to bring a photo of our loved one and talk about them.  Well as you can imagine many many tears.  I can talk about Craig no problems to all my friends but to actually talk about him to strangers was very confronting.

I actually thought it was a bit late in the journey to be doing group counselling as it was 17 months this week :( and I have been having private counselling on a monthly basis.  BUt as I realised there are…


Added by twinsmum on September 29, 2011 at 8:17pm — 3 Comments

Surviving the first year, with help from Buffy the Vampire Slayer

When my husband died, I had no idea how I’d recover. After two years of nursing his terminal illness, our household was drained and I was just plain exhausted. As the breadwinner, I had worked full time through his illness; as the mother of… Continue

Added by Soaring Spirits on September 29, 2011 at 5:00pm — No Comments

Walk About With My Friends

Susan and I was talking about how we need to get out of the house and enjoy the fresh air and nature by going on walks.  The problem is we are all so diverse in where we live so we can not walk together.  Susan thought of putting up a blog and when we go on our walks to post what we see and hear and feel.  We were talking of walking a couple of times a week or more, depending on how we are feeling.  Susan has been busy so I am starting the blog. and inviting all my friends and those on…


Added by Lee on September 29, 2011 at 11:10am — 19 Comments

Cancer, I am sick of it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Cancer, I am sick of it.

It’s everywhere. It’s been around for years and it kills people all the time. The young the old it’s everywhere.  I just can’t understand at this point in time. The 21st century and all, the human kind has not found a cure for this dreadful disease.  Sure, they have treatments. Chemotherapy that’s real great. Poison for your body. Hopeful they kill the cancer cells before they kill you. It leaves you weak and sick, puking your guts up and may…


Added by Dee on September 29, 2011 at 7:58am — 6 Comments


3 weeks ago was the start of everything...Celebrating my son's birthday a week early because I didn't want to lump it into the same short time-frame as my birthday and his Dad's death. In-laws came in from out of town & that was a complete joke. Having to not only get the house ready for a party but for relatives to be there for a whole of 48 hours because they feel that it is important that our boys spend time with each other (but only on their birthdays) & dealing with a…


Added by Vertical on September 29, 2011 at 7:32am — 11 Comments

From Point A to Point B

Wednesday's blog post...…

Added by Cyna on September 28, 2011 at 5:53pm — 2 Comments

My Love

My Love 

Come home to me,

This pain should not be,

Come home to me.

You were always here,

And now you’re there .........

A hug, a smile, and the laughs we shared

All gone, what remains is darkness and tears

I close my eyes and smell you near

So fresh and close it’s almost real

Come home to me

This can not be


Added by Dee on September 28, 2011 at 10:44am — 1 Comment

Three months

My darling, handsome husband,


It's been three months today since you left us. Three long months since I held you, kissed you, heard your voice saying, "I love you, my love." I don't even know how I've made it this far, the months have been a blur. I wake up every morning and the memories flood back, memories of the morning I found you cold in our bed and my nightmare began. Sometimes I still don't believe you're gone...but it's starting to really hit me that you are. We had…


Added by rodsgurl09 on September 28, 2011 at 2:54am — 12 Comments


One is such a small number but yet so hard to get used to. I recently found the sorrow in, one.

A table for 2.. we used to go out to eat frequently we would just sit and talk and laugh and share jokes only you and I would think is funny...Now its a table for 1

A meal for 2... I would cook a nice big meal, all…

Added by MrsHulse (Missy) on September 27, 2011 at 2:23pm — 4 Comments

Dreading the Memorial, Realizing the Gifts

So many times on this most recent journey, I have been reminded how many wonderful people/experiences I would have not known/had if I had not been 'open' to them. And how the vast majority of these experiences have become my strongest support. I wonder how many opportunities I would have missed if I had insisted "that I can do this myself".

The memorial at Hospice was very touching, every speaker from Hospice thanked us for allowing them the honor of being part of our lives---…


Added by Kaye (Nextstep11) on September 27, 2011 at 10:00am — 2 Comments

Broken Places

Monday's blog post...…

Added by Cyna on September 26, 2011 at 5:25pm — 3 Comments

Facebook Changes - Timeline will roll out Oct 5...

Please see my blog post:

Facebook changes and grieving people - a first blush reaction to Facebook's Timeline:…

Added by Alive & Mortal on September 26, 2011 at 4:36pm — 2 Comments

Write a Letter to Your Dead Spouse

It's an obvious exercise, but it's a good one. If you want to know what you're thinking and what you're feeling, writing is one great way to figure it out, and writing a letter to your dead husband or wife can be an excellent way to put it all out there. After all, who was once your most trusted friend? Who did you talk to about your most important thoughts and feelings? Well, you can still do it (although, sadly, it will be entirely one-sided.) Never mind about that.

Here… Continue

Added by Jill on September 26, 2011 at 7:07am — 12 Comments

Grief and Hope Get Acquainted

Grief and hope try to be friends, but it isn't easy. Grief pulls back, gets scared, loses its mind in the past. Hope moves forward quickly, not even imagining all the trouble that might lie in wait up ahead. Hope is full of energy. Hope wants to branch out, try something new, get out and get going.


Grief takes a big long nap and is grateful for the quiet. Grief needs to lose weight and feels too heavy to get up and start all over again. Grief holds on tight to what is known.…


Added by Jill on September 25, 2011 at 6:52pm — 18 Comments

Onward ....

Today's blog post:

Added by Dianne in Nevada on September 25, 2011 at 11:00am — 1 Comment


Well today Sunday Sept 25th would have been my 30th wedding anniversary.  So far tonight i seem to be doing fine.  I am trying not to think about it..  Lately i have been doing good.  I really don't think about Tony everyday anymore.  I guess I am going on with my life now.  I am leaving for vacation on monday Sept 26th and going to my brother in laws (tonys brother) house.  I feel close to tony when I am there and i get my head together.  I am going monday because i did not want to subject…


Added by Ann - Michigan on September 24, 2011 at 9:52pm — 4 Comments



The pain that knows no words


I stare at your ski jacket, suck in the smell

Your leather jacket.  YOUR leather jacket

Hanging stubbornly, loyally waiting for your return


I stare trying to absorb the finality of it all

My emotions doing a psychotic tango in my heart


I cannot summarize this struggle


To wrap my arms around the fact that you will never return

Never walk to that closet to wear…


Added by Eileen on September 24, 2011 at 11:35am — 4 Comments

Pineapple Angel food cdake

I mentioned this is chat, but didn't want to post until I tried it.  Well I made this last Monday nite, yummy and so easy.  With the help of a timer the "widowed" brain can do this.  Find the timer on your oven or buy one- Supa's can of beer may not help!!   Happy Baking


(1) Betty Crocker Angel Food Cake Mis

(2) One can of 18 oz. Pineapple Crushed in own juices (not if u get chuncks by mistake- just put it in the food processor- no worry)

 Bake according to box…


Added by Jackie (lvgma) on September 24, 2011 at 8:15am — 1 Comment

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