Back in August, I shared a thought with "flannery" after she asked if anyone else felt like they were constantly making bad decisions or messing up. "Hells yeah", I exclaimed ( with other words, of course)! But I felt like it would be cool to share my insight as to why I was feeling like a horrible decision maker. I hope that you all realize it's okay to screw stuff up. We're not trying to hurt anyone, we're just trying to survive without the person who used to help us think better…

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He would say be strong in The Lord , keep you faith for this was he's fate

Keep moving forward and always seek Christ.

For he surrender his soul, he is now free from all pain, you see.

Forever he will be in the arms of Christ Jesus.

His love was a miracle, an angel sent from up above.

He made my life complete, leading me to Christ, and making us one with Christ as we said our vows.

He taught me to be strong in the Lord so I may give my stories so The Lord can use… Continue

I am new to this venue but am already seeing stories just like mine. I lost Michael to cancer after watching him decline too quickly. I still think daily about holding him my arms as he took his last breath. Even though its been 6 years, I am still trying to figure out who I am without him. The men I have met have no idea how to be in a real relationship . I miss intimacy, I miss feeling safe and secure. I never imagined at 55 I would be alone and broke . His medical bills drained us. I am… Continue

"I found when I stopped trying to live a life that had my husband in it, I was able to make progress." This is a quote from CoolMum! (Lynne) in a comment she made on Mariposa's Discussion "I AM BEREFT".

I had to look at it for a while to see what she meant.  I took a while to think about what it was like to live a life without my late husband Ray in it...lonely? empty? not what I want?  Yes, all of those things but that is because I am just at the end of the first year of mourning.  I…

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This coming Sunday’s gospel ends with a statement that will shock you: “Anyone of you who does not renounce all his possessions cannot be my disciple.” Another translation says, “None of you can be my disciple unless you give up everything you have.” (Luke 14:33)

This is one of the hardest things we are asked to do. We work hard for years to get to a certain lifestyle. If we lose our job, we have friends praying for us so we don’t lose everything. Our culture dictates to us that we…

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I flipped through the channels on the TV today and caught the end of an episode on The Waltons...   an old show I watched years ago when I was a kid.  Well this episode was about an older couple who had feelings for one another but the woman didn't want to tell the man who clearly loved her that she cared for him too. She didn't want to tell him because she didn't ever want to become a burden to him or, worst fear, die on him since she had a heart…

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Today is 16 weeks and 1 day that my wife passed. I saw a friend while I was out today. This gentleman had known my wife her whole life. As we talked I was reminded of all the things that made my life worth living. I remembered that the first time we went out , I made her ask me. We dated for a year and then I asked her to marry me. Over the next 21 yrs we had a lot of good times and very few rough times. I say rough times because I can't ever remember any "bad" times.We tackled whatever life…

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I felt so protected. Loving Ron gave me an extra layer of skin, a set of body armor. It was like wearing the softest, warmest blanket with a delicate head covering. I felt safe. What is your heart’s desire? What do you long for? I was asked these questions. She said it would help if I knew. What do I long for now? I long to be known, to know. I long to breathe in Ron’s essence, that which bound me to him. I long for his presence.

Skin hunger. I just learned that phrase. I don’t long…

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We all have found ourselves here through very tragic circumstances. It certainly didn’t fulfill our dreams and expectations. I was married for 27-1/2 years to Cindy. We were best of friends for 37 years.

 

We had an incredible marriage, friendship and a very rich family life. We all have been given gifts and talents. I do believe that there is a purpose and plan to life.

 

At this point in my journey I am doing well. I feel that the goodness and the things that I…

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My niece just sent this to me. It reminded her of my journey and some of the themes of it. I would agree.

"Jayne Marie Louise Hunter "

17th January 1966- 19th February 2013

" You were my sleeping princess,soul…

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I have always believed that there is something bigger than me “out there.” I hold great respect for all faiths and believe that it is beautiful and sacred when someone is following a strong spiritual path. For me, this path has been shaken up…

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So this weekend I went on a wine tour from a casino. I was with my mom, sister and my aunt. A day I should have been totally ok, but I wasn't. Does anyone go places and really feel lost. I feel so lost without my husband. It's been 8 months and I still can't watch any of the shows we watched together (we always promised we wouldn't watch them without each other), I can't even watch romantic movies about love or children. My husband and I tried for 6 years to have a baby and were unsuccessful.… Continue

It was Father's day today in Australia, the 1st Sunday in September.  I went to church and then out to lunch with our lunch group ladies, only six of us today as some had been lucky enough to be invited to family celebrations.  It was good to have company but I am sure all of us widows were thinking of our loved ones and so the conversation was a little stilted.  It doesn't matter if it was last year (for me) or 32 years ago (for our oldest lady) we were still all thinking of the one who…

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