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September 2017 Blog Posts (12)

Enforced leisure - still recovering

I was  told on Friday I may be able to drive at the end of next week, I am so looking forward to that, it is over a month now since I had the operation on my leg and graft and I have spent most of that time with my leg elevated.  Luckily I always have many meals frozen in advance in my freezer and friends have been kind and brought me fruit ( I can't eat chocolates...lol) so I haven't starved. The major frustration for me is that Spring is here and I can't get out into the garden to do all…

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Added by only1sue on September 24, 2017 at 4:52am — 5 Comments

Hornet...on WILLING YOU STRENGTH!

As surreal as it seems…tomorrow is the 4th anniversary of my husband’s death. Unbelievable.

I don’t visit Widville as much as I used to…I have literally buried myself in work over the last few years, but I log in every now and then to see how everyone is doing. I have to…this site helped me more than I can tell you, and now, I have the honor of offering my help as well…for whatever it may be worth.

Also, it is my way of honoring the wonderful man…

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Added by Hornet (Cindy) on September 22, 2017 at 8:30pm — 3 Comments

The Continuous vigilance

I've been trying to dissect the emotion, trying to understand the root cause of it.Pinpoint the individual issues, which I'm sure there are many, and attack it head-on. As I've stated before I want to go face-to-face with this emotion, not hide from it but manage it. Not control it, but manage it.



A thought rolled through my brain the other day about how someone in love has a continuous vigilance over the health and well-being of their relationship. Not just once in awhile but at… Continue

Added by mls64 (Mike) on September 22, 2017 at 11:42am — 3 Comments

Role reversal,

If it were you passing away, what would you tell your spouse? What advice or direction would you give?



For some people here there was time to have those conversations.

My wife and I had time but it was a conversation I could not handle. But I wonder about those that lost loved ones unexpectedly.

Some of us were fortunate enough to receive a blessing from our spouses, to eventually move forward and others here were not.



Those precious words from a departed loved… Continue

Added by mls64 (Mike) on September 17, 2017 at 1:29pm — 9 Comments

One Year

I can’t believe it has been a year since I last saw his face, held him, and hugged him in that way that always made me feel so loved. When I buried my face in his neck, almost every day, I knew that he loved me and I loved him. We had a special relationship, and it is still hard to imagine that it is gone.

I’m…

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Added by lowrsr (Sherry) on September 16, 2017 at 5:58pm — 4 Comments

Ridiculous tales a Widowed Mother: The Bunny Book

Most of the situations I find myself in since my husband past are sad.  Some are empowering and some just make me laugh at the ridiculousness of them.  I sometimes think of what a person look in on us or maybe walking in to the room would think.  Mostly I think of what our guardian angel thinks and how often he laughs at his family's many adventures.

Recently a friend gifted us a book about grief.  There are a number of children's books about grief.  There is one that I feel is…

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Added by Orb101214 on September 15, 2017 at 10:57am — 2 Comments

Hornet…Just As It Should Be

It was February 8, 2017, three and a half years after I lost Rick.

I finally removed the wedding ring from my finger.

 

I never thought seriously about taking it off until then. It was as much a part of me as the hand that wore it.

 

My hand was alternating between aching and going numb, and my finger was swelled above the ring. Also, upon closer inspection, I finally realized that the knuckle of that finger was wider than the ring sitting beneath…

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Added by Hornet (Cindy) on September 9, 2017 at 7:58pm — 5 Comments

Gypsy Widow

I was on the road for two months. I started July 10th, 2017 leaving the beautiful Colorado Rocky Mountains and headed North to Swan Valley, ID. This trip took me thru Wyoming into Idaho where I stayed with my friends on their 9 acre property where the Snake River runs through.

I truly loved Swan Valley and I have to say my two black labs loved the area more than I. From the moment we pulled up and I opened the door to let my four legged kids out after a long days drive they ran…

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Added by Gypsy on September 8, 2017 at 8:40pm — 1 Comment

Life sometimes changes fast

Life sometimes changes fast as all we widows and widowers know. I have just spent a week in hospital six out of seven days on bed rest. I had a spot that looked like a mole on my leg, behind my left knee.  Over the past couple of months it grew so I went to my doctor who then referred me to a Skin Cancer Clinic where it was removed under local anesthetic.  A week later I was in surgery in a major hospital having a further surgery this time an extra area to take a "good margin off" to ensure…

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Added by only1sue on September 7, 2017 at 9:59pm — 6 Comments

"Healing and surviving"

November 22nd will be the 1 year anniversary of my wife’s death.

I don't know how I will feel that day, but I know I don't want to spend it alone.…

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Added by soulmate on September 6, 2017 at 10:30am — 2 Comments

The Movie "Everything Went Down" available on Amazon - A Tender Story of a Grieving College Professor and a Songwriter Who has Lost Her Creative Side

A tender movie I have found dealing with the loss of a spouse from a man's point of view is "Everything Went Down". This is an independent movie by Dustin Morrow and is about a college professor who lost his wife two years earlier. During this time, he feels numbing grief due to his loss and is the shell of a person. He meets a young songwriter who has lost her creative side for music. The two develop a friendship over the next few weeks and this helps him to overcome his loss while she…

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Added by Mark62 on September 5, 2017 at 5:16am — No Comments

The Movie "Another Forever" on Netflix - A Tender Story About Grieving After the Loss of a Spouse and the Importance of Friends During This Time

On Netflix, there is a tender, heart touching movie, "Another Forever", that is about a grieving woman who is overtaken by the loss of her beloved husband. After her loss, she takes a spontaneous trip to visit a close friend to get her life back on track. The scenery is beautiful, taking place in several countries. Daniela Escobar stars as Alice who loses her husband suddenly and then deals with moving her life forward again, while remembering the moments they shared. The independent movie,…

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Added by Mark62 on September 5, 2017 at 5:05am — No Comments

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