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October 2014 Blog Posts (27)

Hot Air Balloons  This is a video of hot air balloons. It is well worth watching.

Added by Morgana (Janet) on October 9, 2014 at 9:57am — 4 Comments

Assembling the (G)Grief Team- An Ongoing Process

Early on I knew that there was no way I could weave my way on this path without direction, without guidance, without help. That was actually an out of character insight for me, traditionally I am very stubborn, very go it alone in the face of hardship, stiff up lip and pull up your bootstraps sort of ideology, but when John died I somehow knew, instinctually- or maybe it was John’s prodding from beyond-that in no way was this a path that could be traveled completely…


Added by flannery on October 9, 2014 at 5:30am — No Comments


I finally have the answers that I've been waiting for for almost 5 1/2 months.

And I'm truly not sure what I'm feeling now that I have them.

I spoke to the State's Attorney's Office yesterday. Of course the call came in the middle of conference that I was supposed to be at – of course it came at the worst possible time – but I needed to drop everything and have that conversation.

The upshot is they can't press charges against the man who hit and killed my… Continue

Added by Lakelady on October 8, 2014 at 5:30pm — No Comments

Empty Horizon and a Different View.........

One day everything changed and suddenly the horizon was empty and the future once so bright and clear became shrouded in a deep dark fog from which there seemed no escape.

The day your husband or wife breathed their last breath was the day that everything changed. Suddenly you were not the wife or husband of another but now bore the label widowed, the one left behind, the one for whom life would be forever different.

My journey started quite suddenly and unexpectedly when… Continue

Added by Worldtraveler1 on October 6, 2014 at 5:07pm — 3 Comments

The Love Letter

More life changes are coming down the road for me and it is forcing me to finally face 16 years of life that is wrapped up in this old house. I haven't faced going through Toby's things since he died 15 months ago. I closed the door and ignored it. If I went through it... it would mean he is gone. It was final. Just too much for me to handle mentally last year. So, closed the door and ignored it was how I dealt with it.

Now, being faced with life changes I have been forced to go…


Added by IndiaKai on October 5, 2014 at 10:00am — 7 Comments

I miss Ray more, not less

Minding my three grandchildren who live the furthest away, they are up for school holidays with their mother and I am minding them for three nights while she works.  It is a revelation watching them as their personalities are changing.  The older of the two boys aged almost eight said to me: "It is not the same without Pa around." He is so right!  He used to run into our living room and if Pa was not in his chair he would run to the bedroom, shake Pa's shoulder and say: "We're here Pa, wake…


Added by only1sue on October 2, 2014 at 4:20am — 4 Comments

October 2014, almost 2.5 years in....okay, 28 months....

“First lesson of the day: People don't know that year 3 is often harder than year 1. You have to tell them. You have to ask for help. You have to get over yourself and let them help you.

---- I remind myself that before I was widowed I would have expected someone to be 'back to normal' by year 3. It is just so much more than losing a person (and that's huge). You lose the life you knew, the dreams you had, the stability...

Just like a new love can…


Added by MissingRKK on October 1, 2014 at 10:43am — 19 Comments

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