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November 2018 Blog Posts (13)

Hi Diva, thank you for your kind words. Sometimes it is like I am under water and struggling to come up for air. It seems I am crying more now after 10 months than I did in the earlier months. Maybe …

Hi Diva, thank you for your kind words. Sometimes it is like I am under water and struggling to come up for air. It seems I am crying more now after 10 months than I did in the earlier months. Maybe it has something to do with Christmas coming up. Even at 78 I was still IN love with Gil. We had a wonderful life together and I am sorry we didn’t meet sooner so we could have had longer together. In hindsight 26 years was not enough.what I miss the most is thr feel of his arms around me and his…


Added by Noelene T on November 29, 2018 at 6:31am — No Comments

Carrying a Hole

"Carrying a Hole" - its an oxymoron. How does one carry a hole?

Usually when we think of carrying something we think of carrying weight, substance, bulk. How can one carry a hole? I guess we can carry something with a hole in it, but you cant carry just the hole. In the context of grief though, "Carrying a Hole" makes perfect sense. We carry a hole everywhere we go. A hole in our hearts, a hole in our lives where someone used to be. A hole in our beds, where our partners slept. A hole…


Added by Miss Em (Emma) on November 22, 2018 at 7:44pm — 2 Comments

Thirty-Two...Plus Five

It has been such a long time since I last visited this site. I felt guilty tonight for staying away so long...and then...I read the posts of those on their 5th anniversaries.

I, too, passed through yet another long, sad day on September 5th anniversary. I knew even from the start that, with time, the mind-numbing paralysis brought on by Rick's sudden death would ease. But when I look back, it amazes me how these 5 years can seem like 5 minutes AND 5 decades all at…


Added by Hornet (Cindy) on November 19, 2018 at 6:30pm — 5 Comments

Treading water

I am new on here, my husband passed away from cancer about two months ago.  Even though for sometime I knew he wouldn't be with me for long, I guess I always thought it would be a little bit longer.... it's still so hard to believe he's gone. No matter what, my mind constantly wanders to thoughts of him when he was healthy and happy and full of life and then to when he was sick and had deteriorated .  I'm keeping my head above water but some days just barely.  I have a four year old that I…


Added by sunshinesoon on November 14, 2018 at 3:35pm — 10 Comments

one person is missing

This week is my eldest son's graduation from High School (we live in Australia). This has been a really tough year for him at school. He has never found study easy or "natural" and so for him to graduate is in and of itself an amazing achievement. The school have been awesome and have really done a lot to help him. They have supported and encouraged and cajoled and offered alternatives. So this week we find ourselves in the week of celebrations and milestones. He has worked hard, and learnt…


Added by Miss Em (Emma) on November 14, 2018 at 2:19pm — 2 Comments

The Unmovable Objects

I found it sadly amusing that I continue to walk around things.  Things that are in my way, things that shouldn't be where they are, things that really have no purpose anymore.  But I didn't put them there, she did.  Her slippers on the stairs just inside our front door, her reading glasses on the table, her laptop on the couch, the book bag on the floor of the living room, and the lunch bag hanging in the kitchen.  Removing these and so many other things would help me to attack the clutter…


Added by MidnightBear (Tony) on November 14, 2018 at 11:00am — 1 Comment

A Year and A Day...

So yesterday marked the 1 year mark.  With the hype that family and friends seemed to be having with it, I would have thought it would have had some meaning to me.  Really it didn't.  I did do something we often did together and went for an 8 mile light hike.  I listened to a book on tape as I cruised through the trail and the only thing that was odd was that I didn't take one picture, I just walked.   As I walked I pictured my wife on the trail a few times but I wasn't all emotional or…


Added by MidnightBear (Tony) on November 12, 2018 at 6:37pm — 1 Comment

Christmas Tree

Finally figured out how to put the Christmas tree in this post.  It's a bit early but the past four months have been extraordinarily difficult, sad and life-altering.  Putting up the tree has helped some.  I just want to end the year with something positive, pretty and fun.…


Added by Pegasus on November 12, 2018 at 4:27pm — No Comments

Thinking Ahead

It's been a difficult, sad and life-altering year.  For the past four months my life has been consumed with settling my husband's estate, taking care of my developmentally delayed son and just getting through each day.  The arrival of November has been urging me to start planning for the holidays.  For the first time ever, my youngest sister just told me that her children have to work on Thanksgiving so her family won't be able to come.  My daughter's boyfriend…


Added by Pegasus on November 11, 2018 at 11:09am — 4 Comments

It's official, l'm a mermaid.

November is here, usually my busiest month of the year as it always includes a week in Broken Hill to help my younger son celebrate his birthday. That is still ahead of me. It also includes the beginning of the end-of-year events, as not everyone waits till December to start their Christmas parties. There is also the Lions Bunnings BBQs and the Lions Christmas raffle with my name on the roster. And all the planning for the leadup to Christmas both in the church and on the home front.…


Added by only1sue on November 4, 2018 at 7:01pm — 5 Comments

Too much sadness

Hello. I’m new to the site, looking to find other people that are going through what I am. I have experienced so much stress and grief since 2015. My father passed away in 2015. My Mom passed away Christmas Eve 2016. My husband was diagnosed with stage 4 lung cancer that spread to his brain in 2017. We were told he had about 18 months to live. He went through brain radiation first and that helped his symptoms then he started on chemo. He did really well until they switched the chemo…


Added by TamiK on November 4, 2018 at 5:30am — 15 Comments

Simplifying isn't for the faint of heart but then neither is grief.

So, it's almost been a year, since Jerry left me.  I've come a long long way.  I still have a long way to go!  As I look back at what's helped me the most through this year I realized I have simplified my world.  True, it's a whole lot smaller now but it feels more manageable. 

I first let go of friends/people who create havoc, drama, and or negative vibes.  Even though I know they mean well, most of the time certain folks in my life were draining before Jerry died.  Since he's…


Added by Rainy (Misty) on November 3, 2018 at 12:00pm — 7 Comments


Well, it's November 1 and the holiday season has officially begun. I for one am already starting to get the holiday jitters. Fortunately, my Tony and I had long ago cut ties with the commercialism of Thanksgiving and Christmas. Our focus was on experiencing the "true" meaning of the season. For us that meant reaching out to friends and family with gestures of love...i.e. a visit to the nursing home to cheer up a family member or baking cookies with grandma and grandpa, etc.  Of course this…


Added by DIVA70 on November 1, 2018 at 5:48am — 3 Comments

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