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December 2013 Blog Posts (47)

Your Love

Your Love.

Your Kindness.

Your Beauty.

Your Spirit.

Your Laughter.

I am grateful that I had them.

But I miss them all so much.

Added by Mac on December 20, 2013 at 7:31am — 1 Comment

YOU ARE ALL I EVER WANTED Memories to get me through Christmas

Wes and I in 2010       Memories to help me get through Christmas


Wes wrote : To my Darling ( ……) Happy Birthday. I embrace you on this day and together we will embrace our glorious future.  All my Love…


Added by my roses on December 19, 2013 at 7:33pm — No Comments


My Roses 
Update  on the Celebration that  I planned for Wes .  It was done last Monday 16th.  It started at  10am.  There were 9 of us  - one forgot the date,…

Added by my roses on December 19, 2013 at 5:48pm — No Comments


I've started believing lately what my late husband Wayne always told me.  He believed that everyone has a pre-set time when their life will end.  He really believed that and talked about it when we were first married.. back when he was 22. He also told me and others that he thought he'd die young.  He died at age 58. Of course I used to play the "what if"  game over and over. I don't anymore..

But today I just can't get motivated to accomplish anything.  



Added by Patience on December 19, 2013 at 8:30am — 8 Comments

When reality hits you with a 2 by 4

I know that I am a widow. I know my husband is dead, dead now for coming up to four years in March. I miss him in more ways than there are numbers and ways to measure how to miss him.  I know that I was lucky to have him and the love we shared. I know that I now have a pretty nice relationship going with a man.  Not the same mind you, but pretty satisfying just the same. But, I know that last night when I got in from my enduring flight from Gunnison CO, to Denver, to Cleveland to…


Added by Paula on December 17, 2013 at 12:42pm — 6 Comments

Reflecting on Keeping Up Relations with the .....IN-Laws

My Thanksgiving visit to both sides of the family up in New Jersey was okay, but it has left me with a deep feeling of sadness. Acceptance, but sadness. I enjoyed seeing my sisters, my brother, my dad, step-father, nephews, nieces and a bunch of other relatives and friends. However, I was happy to return home to Texas to the peace and serenity of my humble dwelling. I was happy to escape from DYSFUNCTION JUNCTION!!

The Thanksgiving visit showed the true colors of two of my unmarried…


Added by Mariposa on December 16, 2013 at 1:50pm — 7 Comments

Depression- A Grief Stage of Progression, Not to be Feared

It’s been nearly 15 months since John died. I’ve noticed now that I still cry nearly every day but that the tears are quiet, the pose is now one of defeat as I stare afar from my rocker recliner bundled up in my cold study holding hot, hot tea. I stare and stare and cry silent tears. Defeated now, my spirit feels worn thin and ragged, sheer like a sheet washed too many times over too many years. Gone are the nights on the kitchen floor sobbing so hard I had to stop to remind myself to…


Added by flannery on December 16, 2013 at 7:30am — 2 Comments


I've been on this journey for thirteen months now. I know it is a journey, and I know the destination is uncertain. I try to be patient with myself, I try to have faith, I try, I really do. And, for a while, I was doing okay. I read my earlier blog entries and it seems that I was doing so much better earlier in this journey. I made some new friends, I enrolled in art and in yoga classes, and I made plans so that I would not be alone so much. I think I had hope. Now, though, I am stuck in a very… Continue

Added by Susan on December 14, 2013 at 4:44pm — 4 Comments

camp widow east

Hi I am new here and not sure where to post etc or how lol...

I am wondering if anyone is going to the Camp widow East in Tampa? My daughter found it and I am thinking of going..

Added by Joanne on December 14, 2013 at 7:51am — 8 Comments

The Widow's Christmas Letter

In my family I have a bit of a reputation for writing self-deprecating Christmas letters. It started on a whim a dozen years ago after I had gotten a holiday letter from an acquaintance who had listed month after month of things like: “In January we spent several glorious weeks on the French Riviera where we ____.” (Fill in the blank and let your imagination run wild when you do. She claimed to have done just about everything a tourist could do and then some.) By the time I got to December…


Added by Blue Snow on December 13, 2013 at 6:30am — 4 Comments

Coming home for Christmas


Hi all,

 Many here may not know my story.  I’ve been widowed about a year and a half.  I found this wonderful place last year, met some wonderful people who helped me find hope.  I fell in love and married one of them, Ron.  …


Added by Lori on December 12, 2013 at 10:25am — 4 Comments

Second Time Around


This will be my second year at being a widow.  So far I think I’m doing pretty well.  If there were a report card given to widows, I think I most definitely have a solid B-.  Those that haven’t totally walked in these high heels of grief probably would only give me a C or C plus at best.  Somehow there seems to be a time frame that we are supposed to…


Added by TammyRI on December 11, 2013 at 1:14am — 4 Comments

Designing a Celebration for my beloved is now underway

My roses 

This is a song that was written about the loss of a loved one.  See this link.  Lyrics are " This is what it is like when the Sacred is torn from your life and you survive.It seems so unfair. This is what it is like to be held."

It was sent to me by a friend who was grieving the loss of a tiny baby.  But it applies to all losses of loved ones.

I am feeling…


Added by my roses on December 10, 2013 at 8:19am — 3 Comments

Heading slowly towards Christmas

What is it about the season to be jolly that makes me so tired?  I think it is just the effort of acting "normal". One thing is the returning of greetings.  Friends in passing sing out: "Merry Christmas Sue." so I say "Merry Christmas to you too".  Okay it has been a year and I am "over it" right?  Wrong, but I need to seem to be over it if I am going to look like Jane Citizen, woman of strength.

I didn't know what to do about Christmas cards so I found my 2011 list and followed…


Added by only1sue on December 10, 2013 at 2:53am — 3 Comments

We don’t have a choice.

We don’t have a choice.

Here we are.

Figure out what is up.

Figure out who we are.

The plans we made

Gone in a flash.



What else can we do?

Get through the day

Try to sleep

And hope for a brand new day


Hope will come

So will faith

Try to trust


So here we are

In our new found lives.

It won’t come easy.

So we have to…


Added by Mac on December 8, 2013 at 2:45pm — 6 Comments

Visitors - how many have we seen in the past 8 days? More relevant who are they?

My Roses

Still not getting enough sleep, tossing around physically and mentally when I should be asleep. Got to thinking today about how many people had I seen in the last 8 days.  (Not people in shopping centres) but people I know. It wasn't many.

My count was 4.  How relevant or close were they?  One was a friend who went with me to a concert.  One was my gardener, who says he has my interests at heart. He talked for quite a while and then did some work for me. He is the man…


Added by my roses on December 6, 2013 at 12:58am — No Comments

memorial basketball game

Last Tuesday (Nov 26) was the memorial basketball game in honor of Patrick.

Unfortunately his cardiologist was called out of town, but our favorite nurse stepped in for him.  Robbie got his butt beat by a girl, but he had fun.

It was so much fun, and to see both of my kids happy and excited made it all worth it.

Both local news stations were there along with one of the newspapers.

I think Robbie has watched the videos about 100…


Added by EverydayMorning (Sam) on December 5, 2013 at 6:54pm — No Comments

Just Me, Myself and I

Walking the beach today, I found myself wondering how I ended up here ...alone and miserable, crying, and feeling lost.  

I've been lucky enough to have a few "coast" days now and then, the ones where I feel relatively normal (as normal as can be under the circumstances),…


Added by gingerish (Patti) on December 5, 2013 at 4:06pm — 4 Comments

New to Widowed Village

I'm new to Widowed Village. My husband, Dan, was a four year stroke survivor.  He was totally paralyzed on the left and had a several medical issues.  Dan passed away in June 2013.  As with a lot of people who have been critically ill for a long time, he was very angry at the disease and he got verbally mean at the end.  He was tired of the illness and he gave up.

I joined Widowed Village several months ago and I've been lurking in the background.  Mostly thinking "I'm doing good, I…


Added by MaryJo on December 5, 2013 at 2:09pm — 5 Comments

Yes, I'm still here

I've had a couple of phone calls from old friends, I know why as I am usually one of the first Christmas cards they receive.  Not this year.  Last year I sent them like an automaton, love from Sue, love from Sue and family.  First time without love from Sue and Ray.  I have cards, I have a list but do not particularly care if I send them or not.

Most of the people I have on the list I have not heard from this year.  I am no longer Sue and Ray, I am just Sue.  Some of my/our friends…


Added by only1sue on December 5, 2013 at 12:23pm — 2 Comments

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