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December 2015 Blog Posts (14)

Forever 51

After Laura passed on 7/15/14, I now had to do everything myself. There was no one preparing a meal while I was outdoors working. There was no one to talk to at mealtime anymore. All of a sudden I felt vulnerable. If we had a problem to solve, we would put our heads together to figure out a solution. Two heads are always better than one. Now it's just me, to figure it all out by myself.

I hiked alone on our familiar trails in quiet contemplation and meditation. I stood by the wood…


Added by Preblehiker on December 27, 2015 at 12:03pm — 5 Comments

I Know You By Heart

I Know You By Heart - Eva Cassidy

Added by Preblehiker on December 27, 2015 at 11:10am — 3 Comments

Hornet on The Third

The First? Well…there are no words for it. Horrible?  Yes. Heart-breaking? Yes. And so much more.

The Second? Numb. Going through the motions. Quiet. Horrible. Heart-breaking. Yes…and more.

The Third started out to be the same as The Second…but something softly turned.



Added by Hornet (Cindy) on December 24, 2015 at 4:05pm — 2 Comments


Let's see... I am 4 years, 10 months out and this will be my 5th Christmas/5th New year without my beloved Husband of 27 years upto when he passed, but 32 years to date. 

I find the winter holidays irritating now, sorry to say it, but without my Hubby, things irritate me, and the holidays do this to me even more so. Yes, i realize the meaning of Xmas, a time for peace and joy. And I am blessed with having my 2 Grandsons close by, ages 9 and barely 9. But ...... The togetherness of…


Added by Sad One on December 23, 2015 at 2:00pm — 6 Comments

It Was Like A Dream

On December 2, 2015, I woke up from a vivid dream regarding my wife who passed away from brain cancer on July 15, 2014, just six weeks after diagnosis. I wrote this immediately upon awakening on the morning of December 2.

It Was Like A Dream

I used to date Laura Maybury

We had great times together

We shared our love and intimacy

I loved her dearly, yes I did

I don't know what happened

Did I say something to offend…


Added by Preblehiker on December 23, 2015 at 7:42am — 3 Comments

Taking time to just be

I went back to work pretty quickly after Michael died...took off about 2.5 weeks. I needed the normalcy somewhere and I needed to show my kids that life will indeed continue on. This week, I went in on Monday and realized that I needed time off to just be. I visited Michael's burial site, a beautiful,natural wooded area across from the Monastery. It was so peaceful and beautiful yet so very sad. I have run errands, sat and stared into space, shopped, cried and read. I am so tired of grief…


Added by [email protected] on December 17, 2015 at 5:34am — 6 Comments

Inconsiderate People During The Holidays

As we all know, the holidays are extremely difficult for us - regardless of if it has been 1 day, 1 month, 1 year or 1 decade....or more.  I find myself considering other's feelings and the appropriateness of my actions frequently around this time.  I would never intentionally hurt anyone's feelings.  Let me rephrase that... I would never intentionally hurt another's feelings for no reason.  I certainly wouldn't disrespect them.  I try to be considerate of others regardless of the difficulty…


Added by EmptyChair on December 16, 2015 at 11:07am — 8 Comments

changing relationships

This has been an interesting year for me.  I am finally able to think straight or I thought I was able to until I bought into a couple of relationships that I now see as toxic.  I am one of those people who accept everyone at face value.  If you come up to me , smile and say:  "I am pleased to meet you." I will be pleased to meet you too.  But not all people improve with getting to know them better. I have found out that a couple of my acquaintances really are sweet to me so I can do them…


Added by only1sue on December 16, 2015 at 1:30am — 4 Comments

Holiday Management Tips for Anyone Grieving the Loss of Someone They Love This Holiday Season

  • Give yourself permission to feel how you feel about a particular holiday, or the holidays in general. Mixed feelings are normal may find yourself okay one day and not okay the next. Try to go with the emotional flow.
  • Don't be afraid to consider doing something totally different for this year or one for one particular holiday. You are living with changes to your holidays that you didn't choose...why not make some you do choose?
  • Feel free to add tears to any…

Added by Soaring Spirits on December 13, 2015 at 10:36pm — 5 Comments

Crazy or Not?

 Its been awhile since I have been on WV.  My Friend Arnie  remarried Congrates wish the two of you the best.

I had Met my late wife Patricia  on the internet, and figured I try some of the dating websites. with no so good luck as Im not a loaner.

 Last ditch  I went to the same site I met Patricia figuring Well that site worked Once   what are the chances of twice?

On the last day of my subscription. I get a hit from a woman 4 years younger than I am

.Im not…


Added by hog659(Neal) on December 12, 2015 at 4:00am — 3 Comments

Ashes, Judgement and Mythical Closure

I glanced at the book Small Victories by Anne Lamont today and as I was getting ready to place it on a cart to be re-shelved a small voice inside said, ‘read this.’ I’m trying hard to listen to that voice and so I curiously opened it directly to a page where author Anne Lamont is recalling spreading her friend’s ashes.


This caught my attention fast. I still have most of John’s ashes except a few cups I released into Lake Michigan last year. I often think of releasing what is…


Added by flannery on December 8, 2015 at 12:30pm — 3 Comments

As Christmas Approaches

Christmas Eve 6 months after Cindy passed, I was in my bedroom playing Nothing Compares 2U by Sinéad O Connor over and over again, sobbing all the time. My daughter asked me: “Dad, why are you doing that to yourself?” My response: “Because, I need to.” My children did get to enjoy Christmas with Cindy’s family.

The second Christmas was slightly better, but I was pretty apathetic about any celebrating. Certainly much emotion and missing…


Added by Mac on December 7, 2015 at 5:10pm — 1 Comment

My husband ...he died...and I want him back

If you knew MD, you knew a life lived wide open. He loved deeply and passionately with all of his heart and soul. He held onto the memories of his life and relived them with others vicariously.

I miss my husband deeply, in a place deep down inside that grew out of our great love. He balanced me and showed me a love and family that I only dreamed of. I always thought we would grow old together…we had a million tomorrows…we had plans!

As more time has passed since M's…


Added by [email protected] on December 7, 2015 at 4:40pm — 3 Comments


 I'm not much good at this dating game.  I haven't really dated much at all.  I have had a few lunches out with men, I suppose I would call one or two of them dates as I think that was the reason I was asked out, as a sort of first step in what might have lead to dating. A couple of the people I went out with belonged to an organisation I am in, one was disabled and I think was looking for a carer more than a companion or wife. I seem to go on one date and immediately think "not for…


Added by only1sue on December 3, 2015 at 4:03am — 3 Comments

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