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December 2018 Blog Posts (12)

On the eve of our 40th anniversary

December 31st, 1978:

I had met this terrifically wonderful guy named Mike, several months prior, so cute, so funny, awkward sweet, he had asked me out on the first time we met.  

Now, at a New Year’s Eve party at a nightclub, we danced and drank and had a wonderful time.  The clock strikes 12, it’s now January 1st 1979, and as the ole lang syne played, streamers and balloons dropped from the ceiling, “Happy New Year”!  Mike got down on one knee on the dance floor where we…


Added by Steve on December 31, 2018 at 9:52pm — 2 Comments

Every minute...

Every minute I want to shout at the top of my lungs:


Just in case you can hear me.

Added by loveboo on December 30, 2018 at 2:44pm — 1 Comment

New Year’s Eve party

one of the meetup groups is hosting a party.  The venue is nice but it is not as spacious as the host is trying to make it out to be.  $15.00 a head. She provides the DJ, food, paper/plastic products and party favors.  204 woman and 71 men attending. That’s $4,125.00 she will barley break even on this thing.  She is trying to tell me it’s not going to be standing room only. She’s trying to tell me the music will not be so loud you can’t hear anyone.  She is trying to tell me standing around…


Added by Daisy on December 28, 2018 at 9:51pm — 2 Comments

Friendship vs Intimacy which

I recently joined two meet up groups near me.  I struggle with the amount of time to devote to this.  My time is valuable and once spent I cannot get it back.  So, I have to really work on being people’s friends.  It reminds me of my children’s sports teams.  If you show up and interact with people there you have a chance of befriending at least one person who you might get together with outside of the sports and separate from your children.  However a majority of the adults there could care…


Added by Daisy on December 24, 2018 at 12:13pm — 3 Comments

When will it get better?

12 Christmases without my hubby.  My heart is breaking because I don’t have anyone yet to share the load with. I feel like I have lost everything.  My husband, my house, my children, my job. I am not homeless because of friends I live with and I feel like shit because I can’t afford to pay them what the place is worth.  Why am I even alive?

Added by Daisy on December 21, 2018 at 6:36pm — 1 Comment

Six days till Christmas

I had a phone call yesterday from a woman who joined a Dementia group I belonged to in 2006. We have been in contact on a regular basis since then. She was widowed about 18 months ago so we have that in common too. She was worried about how empty her life feels in this time when "family togetherness" seems to be the theme of all the advertisements, TV programs etc. When are we going to stop this kind of thinking which is so isolating for the childless, the homeless, the widows and widowers…


Added by only1sue on December 19, 2018 at 2:19am — 3 Comments

2 years has passed

It has been 2 years since my husband has passed. I miss him so much. I miss feeling his arms wrapped aroung me, his hand reach out to hold mine. The love, the emotional support, the comfort and security.... those hugs, the holding of hands, were so much more than physical.

I find I am crying myself to sleep this holiday season...again. I smile when I look at photos of our past together, but as much as I smile at the loving memories, I find tears stream down my face- missing him, his…


Added by Lostmyeverything on December 17, 2018 at 5:51pm — 1 Comment

Never before felt so miserable in life...

There´s been a while I don´t post here. depression came back in a ridiculous level...I´m not being able to function anymore. I´ve been watched by 2 therapists and a doctor, but nothing really seems to help. Today, after 4 months without him, I thought I´d get better...but I´m just getting worse. Acceptance and conformism have been extremely difficult issues to deal with. For those who know a little about my history, my husband died out of US in my country, after 12 days of marriage. I delt…


Added by on December 17, 2018 at 2:22pm — 3 Comments

Dad has passed My work partner is Not doing well, ad My Boss is an Ass

Here I am December 16th 2018..  IN June  I finally Got Rid of the wicked one out of my house. and   had the Entire upstairs Decontaminated. and bought myself a New bed. I am Now averaging 4 hours a night of sleep after almost 4.5 years of 1 hour a night. I Finally opted  to take  My vacation time in Augest.

 out in the Ozarks of MO.  it was amazing. however  I cut my 20 days vacation short 10 days, when my work partner called  that his mom may Die Before the weekend.  I drove 2 days …


Added by hog659(Neal) on December 16, 2018 at 4:46pm — No Comments

Illusion of Distance

As time continues to trickle away behind me, I find that there is this illusion of distance looming out in front of me, and has been for some time.  When I first lost my wife reaching a place where I could truly be happy again seemed very far away, there was no illusion, it was clear as day that those mountains were far far away.  As the weeks and months started to fall away, the mountain started to appear close, like if I could just keep up this pace for a little longer I would reach the…


Added by MidnightBear (Tony) on December 13, 2018 at 9:02am — 4 Comments

The Things People Don't Mean but Say

I have noticed that I am far more sensitive than I used to be.  I find that I walk into situations where people don't know about my wife, or who do know about her and mention it when I am not expecting.  The other day someone was asking me if I was traveling with my wife to her family because they over heard me talking about going to her parents' house around Christmas for a visit.  I explained that no, she had passed away, but it was a bit of a hit to the gut to have them ask that question…


Added by MidnightBear (Tony) on December 9, 2018 at 12:53pm — 2 Comments

Accepting my scars

I need to accept my scars as being a part of me.  When I was learning to be a telephone counsellor for Lifeline, a suicide prevention telephone counselling service staffed by volunteers we had a lesson on being "real". One of the things our facilitator asked us to do was to stand in front of the mirror naked each morning for a week and say: " This is who I am and who I will be all day."  Boy was that a life lesson, nothing to cover up who we really are. I think it is time for me to do that…


Added by only1sue on December 3, 2018 at 3:00am — 1 Comment

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