I can’t believe it has been a year since I last saw his face, held him, and hugged him in that way that always made me feel so loved. When I buried my face in his neck, almost every day, I knew that he loved me and I loved him. We had a special relationship, and it is still hard to imagine that it is gone.Continue
Most of the situations I find myself in since my husband past are sad. Some are empowering and some just make me laugh at the ridiculousness of them. I sometimes think of what a person look in on us or maybe walking in to the room would think. Mostly I think of what our guardian angel thinks and how often he laughs at his family's many adventures.
Recently a friend gifted us a book about grief. There are a number of children's books about grief. There is one that I feel is…Continue
It was February 8, 2017, three and a half years after I lost Rick.
I finally removed the wedding ring from my finger.
I never thought seriously about taking it off until then. It was as much a part of me as the hand that wore it.
My hand was alternating between aching and going numb, and my finger was swelled above the ring. Also, upon closer inspection, I finally realized that the knuckle of that finger was wider than the ring sitting beneath…Continue
I was on the road for two months. I started July 10th, 2017 leaving the beautiful Colorado Rocky Mountains and headed North to Swan Valley, ID. This trip took me thru Wyoming into Idaho where I stayed with my friends on their 9 acre property where the Snake River runs through.
I truly loved Swan Valley and I have to say my two black labs loved the area more than I. From the moment we pulled up and I opened the door to let my four legged kids out after a long days drive they ran…Continue
Life sometimes changes fast as all we widows and widowers know. I have just spent a week in hospital six out of seven days on bed rest. I had a spot that looked like a mole on my leg, behind my left knee. Over the past couple of months it grew so I went to my doctor who then referred me to a Skin Cancer Clinic where it was removed under local anesthetic. A week later I was in surgery in a major hospital having a further surgery this time an extra area to take a "good margin off" to ensure…Continue
November 22nd will be the 1 year anniversary of my wife’s death.
I don't know how I will feel that day, but I know I don't want to spend it alone.…Continue
A tender movie I have found dealing with the loss of a spouse from a man's point of view is "Everything Went Down". This is an independent movie by Dustin Morrow and is about a college professor who lost his wife two years earlier. During this time, he feels numbing grief due to his loss and is the shell of a person. He meets a young songwriter who has lost her creative side for music. The two develop a friendship over the next few weeks and this helps him to overcome his loss while she…Continue
Added by Mark62 on September 5, 2017 at 5:16am — No Comments
On Netflix, there is a tender, heart touching movie, "Another Forever", that is about a grieving woman who is overtaken by the loss of her beloved husband. After her loss, she takes a spontaneous trip to visit a close friend to get her life back on track. The scenery is beautiful, taking place in several countries. Daniela Escobar stars as Alice who loses her husband suddenly and then deals with moving her life forward again, while remembering the moments they shared. The independent movie,…Continue
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Juggling a full time job and part time job, cleaning the house, doing the laundry, doing the grocery shopping, making all of the meals, making sure the car is properly maintained, taking care of three “high maintenance/special needs” pets, doing all of the yard work (including snow removal each winter), paying the bills, worrying about finances, raising a teenage son and making sure all of his needs are being met as well as taking care of myself, is really, really unbelievably hard. Being…Continue
My mother spent a lot of time growing up with an aunt, her mother's older sister. The aunt spoke often in what we would call cliches or truisms and Mum used a lot of them herself. Some I agreed with like : "A stitch in time saves nine" how often did I wish I had mended the falling hem earlier, and "A watched pot never boils" so I had to learn to do something else while I waited for something to cook. One I have trouble with today is: "What the eye don't see, the heart don't grieve."…Continue
Added by only1sue on August 21, 2017 at 6:43pm — No Comments
my grief is a child
wild and unpredictable
stormy and sweet
whiny with dirty fingernails
and sticky fingers.
I need time away
and yet, I also can not stay
because it needs me
and I am in love.
It is my child-
our child that we made
It is what is left of us
It is full of us
always just around the
playful and demanding
with wet kisses.
I have been away for just over a week, I flew out to Broken Hill as the distance is too great to drive alone. I stayed with one son and together we drove for seven hours to visit my other son and his family. This is the only way I have managed to do that trip. I stayed with my younger son at a time when he had his daughter on access, we had a few fun days and then she got sick and we had two unhappy days with her. That is life when you have a pre-schooler and he always says he loves her…Continue
Today one year ago was Sandy's funeral. The last time I was able to tuck her in to rest peacefully forever. Sandy always went to bed well before I did most nights and I would frequently come up to bed and have to remove her glasses and tuck her in as she would fall asleep reading or watching tv. So one year ago today when I tucked her in and covered her up in the casket is a memory I will never forget. Don't get me wrong it was tough then and also thinking about it now, but am grateful I was…Continue
It's been 13 months. My wife Carla died June 12, 2016. Sunday is her birthday but she's dead so she's not getting any older. I am 47 and I get older every year, but Carla will always be 56. If I ever hear anyone complain about turning 60, I want to punch them.
I was doing reasonably well. In fact, I'm much better now…Continue
Just saw a movie recently where it was obvious the older woman could not let go of the past and I could see how that was hindering her progress in life. I know sometimes that is so me. I want things to be the way they were at some point in my life long gone that I considered looking back was the ideal life. If that can't happen I think I want my present life to be based on that. Well guess what? that is never going to happen. When Ray had the stroke in 1999 I was 43, working part-time,…Continue
It's been 5 years for me. We were married for 28 years. For most of us, things do improve with time. We adjust to this "new life" and we have such a sense of gratitude for so very much! Wishing all the best for you!
There are so many possible combinations in this world.
We travel here, there and everywhere!
We meet so many people.
We do so many things.
We make so many choices. …
Ten years ago today, I married the love of my life.…Continue