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The New Road

 

some where on the I-5 in CA heading south



862 miles


14 hours in the car


in two days
.

Less actually, because we left at 
1:00 pm on Friday
 and got back tonight (Saturday) at 7:00 pm.





It started with a casual…

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Added by BlackWidow3 on March 26, 2011 at 11:30pm — 3 Comments

Wedding Anniversary

Today would've been our 29th wedding anniversary.....WOW! I know we would've made it too. Our commitment to each other was true to the core! The song I've posted has a crazy video but I'm so sure that the tune would've been one that Bill and I would get a kick out of.



Don't take each other for granted. Love each other forever from the bottom of your hearts! Live a life of no regrets........OK Please?…





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Added by wannabmartha on March 26, 2011 at 8:30pm — 1 Comment

The Dating Game

Well, I'm ready to start dating again....or for the first time, I guess.  Yikes.  I've been thinking a lot about how to go about this, whether to blog about it, how much to share online, etc....and I don't know that I'll make the right decisions every step of the way.  In fact, I probably won't.  I've never gone through this before, so it's silly to think I'll do everything right the first time I try.



For those who don't know, I started dating my husband when we were teenagers -- I… Continue

Added by Wendy on March 25, 2011 at 5:57am — No Comments


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What Short Stack gets, part 3: Cancer



[Read What Short Stack gets, part 1 and part 2.] 



Bad news,… Continue

Added by Soaring Spirits on March 24, 2011 at 11:22am — 1 Comment

2 1/2 months, 73 days, 10 wks.  no matter which way we look at it, it is a lot of time to be missing someone you love.  Everything is fine, bills paid, house and car clean and in order, grandkids bee…

2 1/2 months, 73 days, 10 wks.  no matter which way we look at it, it is a lot of time to be missing someone you love.  Everything is fine, bills paid, house and car clean and in order, grandkids been over, our dogs are groomed and full ------but --------something major is not right.  Death aint so bad, it's missing them that hurts.  I guess with joy comes sorrow.  I guess if you cared a lot, you're gonna grieve a lot.  Sure wish he was here with me to get thru this awful thing called… Continue

Added by barb on March 23, 2011 at 1:14pm — 5 Comments

Six months ....

http://amyelomawidowsjourney.blogspot.com/

Added by Dianne in Nevada on March 23, 2011 at 8:43am — No Comments

After the Fairytale, A New Story.

 

Once upon a time I was part of a certain type of family: we were a happily married couple with our two kids, a house and a dog. We lived in a neighborhood with other families like ours. We had a lucky partnership with a full future ahead of us. Together we would love and influence our children, return to our twosome when they left home, and then…

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Added by Jill on March 22, 2011 at 7:30am — No Comments


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What Grieving People Want You to Know, By Dr. Virginia Simpson

Introduction by Supa Dupa Fresh

Most of us have seen this pithy, heartful piece around... or its many, many imitators, with titles like "Letter from a Young Widow," "Letter by a Widow," and so on. Rest assured, this one is the original, and credit must go to Dr. Virginia Simpson.

I spoke to Dr. Simpson in early 2010 about this piece and her recent work in hospice. She confimed what that I already believed about…

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Added by Soaring Spirits on March 21, 2011 at 10:06am — 3 Comments

Time ...

 

http://amyelomawidowsjourney.blogspot.com/2011/03/time.html

Added by Dianne in Nevada on March 20, 2011 at 12:40pm — No Comments

It Only Takes ....

.... a moment.

One teeny tiny moment .... to change your world.

To destroy your world as you know it.

To make you feel as if you will drop dead.



Just one moment.



I have been trying and trying to upload a picture for the top of this entry, but I'm in a hotel and the computer won't let me upload pics.  So I will do my best to leave the web site so that you can click on it and then see it.…

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Added by Janine (txmomx6) on March 16, 2011 at 8:11pm — 8 Comments

Tax Information for Widows

Editor’s Note: Many Widows and Widowers find tax time confusing, especially the first year or two after your spouse has died. I’ve asked Kelly Phillips Erb, tax attorney and tax blogger, for some tax advice which she has generously shared here. Kelly first wrote this article in 2009, so there may be some dated information, but I wanted to…

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Added by Sherry on March 16, 2011 at 5:34pm — No Comments

Widower Wednesday: What I Would and Can Give Up

When Kevin died, I said over and over that I would have given up anything to have him still be here on earth.  I no longer feel that immediacy.  While I wish he hadn't passed, I'm content in my new life and where my chapter two is headed.  The immediacy, to have him here in order to survive, is gone.  I am happy to embrace my presence now and see him in the other life.

As tragedy unfolds around me from countries being swallowed by earth and water, to new widows entering this world, to…

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Added by CrazyWidow on March 16, 2011 at 7:00am — 2 Comments

Sometimes Fooling Yourself is A Good Thing, Especially When You're Grieving

When you're in the throes of grief, you need a few personal tricks to keep on moving through the pain, especially in the early months and years after sustaining a major loss. We all have tricks we play, we just may not be aware of what they are. Joan Didion called it Magical Thinking. I think a little mental magic might be essential to the new widow or widower's survival.

 

I was partial to frequent lunch and coffee dates with sympathetic friends because they made me feel that…

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Added by Jill on March 15, 2011 at 6:46pm — 3 Comments

EMDR

My brain is on overload this morning.  Friday I began therapy.  Part of my therapy is the general kind, the other is something called EMDR.  Most people think I'm nuts when I talk about what EMDR involves.  I have decided I am not going to think too much about how it works, and just focus on believing that it's going to work for me.

 

Maybe you don't associate losing your husband as involving trauma…

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Added by CrazyWidow on March 14, 2011 at 7:49am — 3 Comments

Ode to Widville

 

 

Welcome to our village of widowhood

Pull up a chair it’s all good…

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Added by patter on March 13, 2011 at 9:36am — 1 Comment

Can you make me look younger?





Earlier today I took my son to get his hair cut. He's the Emo kid with the cool do, so I always have to pick a stylist that will make him happy. As I sat their waiting for him to be ever so perfectly coiffed, I began looking through the latest Details men's magazine. I flipped through a few of the pages, then came across an article titled "5 Ways to Look Younger In Less… Continue

Added by Dan Cano on March 11, 2011 at 9:12pm — 3 Comments


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Turning the corner on grief





How do you know when you're turning the corner on grief?, they ask. There's hope and confusion in their eyes. And who wouldn't want the pain to end? But I can't lie and say, "On day one of year two, you will be all fixed up." I would… Continue

Added by Soaring Spirits on March 11, 2011 at 10:33am — 4 Comments

The Twins and Their Shadows

My fourth grade year concluded with long shadows cast over it.

 

The class was all elbows and knees. Everything seemed like possibility upon possibility. Though I was never the center of attention, I quietly went about making friends. Among my classmates were “the twins”, Bobby and Ricky. They looked remarkably similar. Bobby was a wee bit taller, had a…

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Added by Alive & Mortal on March 10, 2011 at 10:00pm — 1 Comment

Where are you

 

I think that I today ,realized that my husband (because he was sick for so long) has left us much longer then six month ago and that made me very said.I wonder how he left and I did not realized it.My daughter said ,that he left us last May ,when the found all his brain tumors and I was just to bussy, finding new cures to see it.Maybe she is right ,I lost him so much longer then  what it seams.So where do I go from here ?I guess ,I have to start a new life .I will call it my second…

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Added by faymeister on March 10, 2011 at 3:00pm — 3 Comments


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Market outlook



"Of course, these numbers would look a lot different if you'd sold it in 2005 or 2006," he said with the bright kind of regret that makes you know he had a good year that year. He was nice enough -- more than nice, really -- the real estate… Continue

Added by Soaring Spirits on March 10, 2011 at 10:30am — No Comments

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