Editor’s Note: Many Widows and Widowers find tax time confusing, especially the first year or two after your spouse has died. I’ve asked Kelly Phillips Erb, tax attorney and tax blogger, for some tax advice which she has generously shared here. Kelly first wrote this article in 2009, so there may be some dated information, but I wanted to…Continue
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When Kevin died, I said over and over that I would have given up anything to have him still be here on earth. I no longer feel that immediacy. While I wish he hadn't passed, I'm content in my new life and where my chapter two is headed. The immediacy, to have him here in order to survive, is gone. I am happy to embrace my presence now and see him in the other life.
As tragedy unfolds around me from countries being swallowed by earth and water, to new widows entering this world, to…Continue
When you're in the throes of grief, you need a few personal tricks to keep on moving through the pain, especially in the early months and years after sustaining a major loss. We all have tricks we play, we just may not be aware of what they are. Joan Didion called it Magical Thinking. I think a little mental magic might be essential to the new widow or widower's survival.
I was partial to frequent lunch and coffee dates with sympathetic friends because they made me feel that…Continue
My brain is on overload this morning. Friday I began therapy. Part of my therapy is the general kind, the other is something called EMDR. Most people think I'm nuts when I talk about what EMDR involves. I have decided I am not going to think too much about how it works, and just focus on believing that it's going to work for me.
Maybe you don't associate losing your husband as involving trauma…Continue
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My fourth grade year concluded with long shadows cast over it.
The class was all elbows and knees. Everything seemed like possibility upon possibility. Though I was never the center of attention, I quietly went about making friends. Among my classmates were “the twins”, Bobby and Ricky. They looked remarkably similar. Bobby was a wee bit taller, had a…Continue
I think that I today ,realized that my husband (because he was sick for so long) has left us much longer then six month ago and that made me very said.I wonder how he left and I did not realized it.My daughter said ,that he left us last May ,when the found all his brain tumors and I was just to bussy, finding new cures to see it.Maybe she is right ,I lost him so much longer then what it seams.So where do I go from here ?I guess ,I have to start a new life .I will call it my second…Continue
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After Ken died, our children were little. I didn't want them to forget the memories that belonged to them of their father; not just the stories others would tell them about him, but their very own personal memories. So, night after night, in the days following…Continue
No one has ever had the balls to ask me if I’m “over it”. I’m glad no one has had them yet for fear of what I might do to someone who would ask me such a thing. It. There’s a great discussion happening on a new widow forum that I’m helping to moderate. One of the forum topics asks readers if the second year is worse? I couldn’t help responding with a simple ‘YES’. I wanted to scream and tell the world, “YES, THE SECOND YEAR SUCKS, I’M NOT OVER IT, MY HUSBAND’S DEAD AND NOW IT FEELS…Continue
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Here is the one I write on the most:
and this one when I'm feeling like writing stuff I cant say on the other one:
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I've been attending church again. Gasp, I know! I have probably gone to church more in the past two months than I have in the past two years. It's a big commitment/step. I like to draw things from the sermons, even if, in my brain, I can't quite take it to the God level. But, I can take it to my level, where I can look at what the pastor says according to God, and see how I can apply it in my life. This past week, the pastor focused on the past, and how it affects our future but does…Continue
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