Hey, first I was excited that my blog, “The Hungover WIdow,” made this list by Feedspot of the top 50 blogs for Widowed People. Here’s the link:https://blog.feedspot.com/widow_blogs/ . I am grateful that folks on this site read my blog.
And I’m still lying in bed because it’s the holidays and I have very little family. Love, Debbie
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Year two is worse than year one, I have heard other widows say. I thought to myself, "surely that can't be true." It probably isn't for everyone, but for me, it seems to be proving true.Continue
Please note, I posted this on my FB page yesterday, and then mentioned it on chat yesterday to someone. I told them I would post it here today so here it is.
Have you ever looked back on something you wrote 25 years ago and shivered? I just did that, here is a poem I wrote 25 years ago, I don't know what possessed me then, but it is like 25 years ago I knew someday I would be where I am today:
For years, my wife and I would pick a destination to go to on vacation. Often a national park or amusement park, but it was often that we would pick one destination that we could drive to. These were times when we would be in the car for hours, listening to a book on tape and gabbing about random stuff. Until we bought a car with navigation my wife was the navigator. She was responsible for the roadmap and pointing out directions. She would drive only during long stretches of straight…Continue
1 month ago today, the light of my life went away. I woke today initially with the feeling like it was all the other days since her passing, but then feelings came flooding in. I almost crawled back into bed and refused to go to work but this would have meant admitting defeat and giving in. I won't go down without a fight and so I dragged myself from bed, shaved, showered and got dressed. I made myself a lunch and ate breakfast. I left the house about 20 minutes later than intended, and…Continue
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A letter I wrote to family & friend but haven't had the nerve to share.
I know people are trying to do well meaning things when they suggest that I should get a dog, or a cat or some other creature to have around me. I know people are meaning well when they say sharing is helpful or that you will get over this eventually. I know people merely want to try to fix me. The problem is, I am not broken, I am sad, lonely, angry and tired. I am these things but I am…Continue
Christmas is coming, time goes faster from now on. My plan is to go to my daughter again this year from Christmas Eve. This means missing out on some of my old activities but I can't really think of anything else to do. Some of my friends go on cruises, take advantage of offers from friends or simply plan to spend the day alone but I don't really like any of those options. In the past five years I have spent Christmas with my family with the exception of one year when the family could not…Continue
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Grief Bites: Day 1
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I started a Bible Study on singleness and loneliness. I can’t say that I learned anything new orvthat thingsswere written in a way that I had an aha moment. What I can say is that maybe perhaps for the first time my internal attitude was in a position of humbleness and willing to listen to God on the topic. I came away feeling loved and protected and as though God understood and I indeed was not alone that He really did have a plan. Wish I could say I never struggled with it or cried after…Continue
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I was better prepared for life after Ron's death than many widows. He died about a year ago at age 78, but his health had been deteriorating and his stamina had been decreasing for a couple of years before that. I was also 15 years younger. I'd always managed the finances (he joked that since he was an English major and my degree was in Math that was a no-brainer) and had gradually taken over lawn and yard maintenance, keeping the car maintained, housekeeping, etc. because he just…Continue
For 2 1/2 years I got calls for Arlene on my cell asking for her so they could try to sell her diabetic testing supplies. And until six months ago, I would scream and curse at them (ok, it was fun and thereaputic, but clearly ineffective). So tonight at work, I got another one of those calls, at work and gave what is now my standard response:
Them: Hello, may I speak to Arlene?
Me: She's not here, but I can give you the number where she may be reached.
I was told on Friday I may be able to drive at the end of next week, I am so looking forward to that, it is over a month now since I had the operation on my leg and graft and I have spent most of that time with my leg elevated. Luckily I always have many meals frozen in advance in my freezer and friends have been kind and brought me fruit ( I can't eat chocolates...lol) so I haven't starved. The major frustration for me is that Spring is here and I can't get out into the garden to do all…Continue
As surreal as it seems…tomorrow is the 4th anniversary of my husband’s death. Unbelievable.
I don’t visit Widville as much as I used to…I have literally buried myself in work over the last few years, but I log in every now and then to see how everyone is doing. I have to…this site helped me more than I can tell you, and now, I have the honor of offering my help as well…for whatever it may be worth.
Also, it is my way of honoring the wonderful man…