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" ...an accumulation of if's..."…Continue
So,this is just for me to get my thoughts processed and if anyone gets anything out of it; bonus.
My husband Bradley died at 3:46 a.m. on 10/16/2001 at age 48 (I was 41) of Lung Cancer. So by the math he's been dead for over 10 years. But it never feels that long, ergo my title the Arc of Grief.…Continue
I have a decision to make.
The decision is simply do I stay or do I go? We live in an area with an ok school system (but not the best) and both my family and Amandas family live almost an hour away. We live where we live because of the proximity to Amandas job. That is no longer an issue. The next town over has one of the best school systems in the state, and it's also where my job is located. We talked several times about eventually moving so Samuel could go to school there. In fact…Continue
As each of us have to face death and the need to rebuild our lives I have thought about this question a lot. What is life? How do we know what life is?
I have thought about this poster, it is one of my favorites. When Torrey got sick and we knew she was going to die we faced the issue of all that…Continue
The other day I picked up a picture that was on my closet floor, it was a picture of Brian holding Tucker when he was a baby. We were at my uncles farm looking at his horses.…
I knew it was our wedding anniversary today but I didn't realize that it would've been our 30th. That hurts! It makes me sad! Why does it change when I understand the significance? I'm not sure, but it does.
Bill and I had a great marriage full of love, friendship, and understanding. I loved him so much. He was my focus each day and what I looked forward to each night. I felt so lucky. I had no regrets!…Continue
Ah, its spring. I know this because my neighbor across the street has emptied his shed. He does this every year. He takes everything out and then puts everything back in.
Spring is the time of renewal and new growth and nice weather, blah, blah, blah. Spring was my husbands favorite season behind Fall. I do not like Spring anymore. It means cleaning up the yard, picking up sticks, mowing the lawn, putting new mulch and gravel down. Washing the truck and the house and cleaning…Continue
Hello everyone. I feel like i have been eavesdropping on everyone, so it is time introduce myself. My husband, Mike and I were married 04-04-04. We have 2 beautiful boys.... 7 and 5. When we got married it was supposed to be 4ever, forever did not last as long as I thought it was going to. On 11 March, 2011 Mike ended his pain and began ours. I never thought at 34 I would be a widow. Everyday is a struggle....still. My oldest (our honeymoon baby) looks just like Mike. Somedays it makes me…Continue
Sleepless night, first year anniversary of my Gerry's passing. I spent the day with friends. I went to our local chapter of Band Of Brothers,(he was a Marine) then went to Korean War Veterans Memorial, for some one on one time. Had dinner with some church friends. Then some one on one time with a special friend :)
I couldn't sleep, it was like I didn't want this day to end, still don't and its 3:15 am. What the heck!!
I know from being on here for the last few months that we…Continue
I have a day off at work today. It was a really hard day for me. Feels like mid year with tons of "Flash Back". Worst part is its not about the good flash back. I try to think about the good ones, but I keep getting images in my head of when I found Michael all Blue in bed (minutes before I call the ambulance to resuscitate him)...
I guess no matter how hard I try to cover it up with busy activities it will eventually come back and haunt me.
I even did a bit of gardening in…
Dear Dead Don,
Do you have any idea how hard it is to get used to your lack of presence in the house? How hard it is to want to share something with you only to realize I have to tell it to thin air? Darn you, Don! Why did you have to die? I wasn’t finished loving you just yet! And who am I going to yell at for leaving the top off the toothpaste or not picking up the dog's toys at bedtime.
But I’m being strong. You’d be proud of that. I’m taking care of…Continue
Unfortunately the for 3 musketeer, it was only Scott(Skippy) and I that went to the wedding banquette (Chinese Restaurant "Dragon View"). My friend Jeremy couldn't come because he caught pneumonia.. Once we got there it was a very "TRIP OUT" feeling. I saw so many of my High School mates I haven't seen since 98 grad. I had a bit of an anxiety attack…Continue
It will be one year on April 12, 2012 that I have been without my other half. It feels like I have been through an amputation. Part of me is gone. It is suppose to get better, isn’t it? I find myself on a see saw…. Or as I say, stuck in the twilight zone. I long for my old life as it was… and which will never be again. So…. Okay I am accepting that or have no choice not too. So here I am, not ready to close the door on my old life yet. Maybe it is the fear that my dear spouse will be…Continue
I have been reading a lot of the comments and stories and find it really does help to know that I am not alone and that we go through the same things when grieving. My husband died of a brain aneurism on the 21 Dec 2011. If have just passed the 3 month mark and I miss him so much? Thank you for all the welcomes I know that I will find lots of help and comfort here
I had to go to another funeral today, this one was a very close friend of mine and KC's. He was with us all through KC's cancer, gave him tons of pep talks about fighting for every day he could get. The whole time our friend Chuck was fighting a different form of cancer of his own, and had been for over a year. When I walked up to the funeral home today with all the same street rods lined up just like at KC's a short 10 months ago, I wanted to run the other way…Continue
Yesterday I had to see the lawyer. I needed to sign papers allowing them to look into Craig's health records, and my health records. I guess the case is finally proceeding...finally suing the C***-F***! only took 178 days...wow, seems a lot longer. I've heard others talk about time... and time being so linear now. So true. Seems like it keeps going and won't stop, yet just stands still at the same time. weird. And what to do with our time when it feels wasted…Continue
What is it about this "after" life that has made me so insecure? I never used to be this way. I find myself worried that I'm not good enough, not young enough, not pretty enough, not strong enough.
I've been seeing a man (whom I'll just called MB) for several months now. MB is a nice guy. I enjoy the time I spent with him. But my insecurities make me afraid to hope that this might be a real relationship. My dating before MB ended up being really bad experiences. I think a…Continue