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Featured Blog Posts (8)

Holiday Management Tips for Anyone Grieving the Loss of Someone They Love This Holiday Season

  • Give yourself permission to feel how you feel about a particular holiday, or the holidays in general. Mixed feelings are normal may find yourself okay one day and not okay the next. Try to go with the emotional flow.
  • Don't be afraid to consider doing something totally different for this year or one for one particular holiday. You are living with changes to your holidays that you didn't choose...why not make some you do choose?
  • Feel free to add tears to any…

Added by Soaring Spirits on December 13, 2015 at 10:36pm — 5 Comments


Two weeks ago would have been the time of year Kathy and I would be driving back down from Alberta to Arizona. We were snow birds in reverse. Here in the Valley of the Sun where we lived and I grew up, winters saw almost no change in color among the tree leaves. But driving down the hill............That was where the colors were abundant. Those years were full of color.  Kathy new the change of seasons growing up in a farming community near Calgary. I only knew bloody hot and not so hot.…


Added by katpilot on October 28, 2015 at 10:40am — 6 Comments

Looking back from the perspective of 5 years

This was a milestone year. 5 years. how it happened I don't know I think the below makes so much sense where I am right now

I did not write this but I think that after five years these are indeed the things I have learned. I wish I knew who wrote it because I would give them credit, but whoever wrote it really gets it.

A time finally comes when you "get it" ... when, in the midst of all your tears and insanity you stop in your tracks and somewhere the voice inside your head…


Added by Paula on June 2, 2015 at 6:33pm — 17 Comments

The Vessel

How many times have I stared at the vessel

That holds your remains

And thought…

How are your feet, your strong hands, your kind eyes

In there?

How many times have I stared at that vessel

My heart twisting, aching, pleading

For it simply not to be?

How many times have I stared at that vessel

And thought, ‘Where are you?’

Only to feel my heart cry out in response,

In here, in here, in…


Added by flannery on May 29, 2014 at 9:02am — 10 Comments

I said it out loud

This was my first Memorial Day weekend without Toby.  We always went out to the cabin in Idaho and did our hikes, boating, and kayaking. Since I am by myself now, I decided to drive to Seattle. I thought I should do something different and not join the family at the cabin (the cabin is also where he died).  I made the drive over and stayed at my sister’s place with her new husband.  It was good to see her.  I hadn't seen her since the fall because of the snow on the pass.  The…


Added by IndiaKai on May 29, 2014 at 5:46pm — 9 Comments

Lists: Wishes, Anger and Hope

Sorry for another long post but I have a lot that needs to get out these days....

Lists: wishes, anger and hope                                                                    April 28, 2014

Wish List

I wish Ron was here. I wish Ron did not die. (duh)

I wish my family and closest friends would remember that our wedding anniversary is next week and that it makes me cry to think about it and I would like some company and some help…


Added by MissingRKK on April 29, 2014 at 8:30am — 28 Comments

Certificate of Life

Today, I had to deliver a "certificate of death" for my husband to an agency for a matter this is not important to mention here. As I sat in the parking lot, reviewing the form - it's facts and figures and names of those involved.  I've had to look at it many times before for other reasons that all of us here experience, so this time it was not as "surreal", "shocking" and traumatic for me as it was in the first days of this journey. I kind of mulled it over a bit, not sure why maybe just…


Added by AEDforever (Ali) on October 15, 2012 at 4:30pm — 37 Comments

I am a Widow

I am a widow.

I suffered a heartbreaking loss.

Sometimes I will get emotional.

Sometimes I will be insecure.

Sometimes I'll be dancing with joy and moments later be crying my eyes out.

Sometimes I'll be sentimental and others I'll avoid thinking of the past.

Sometimes I'll look forward to the future and others I'll wonder "what future?"

I'll seek to love and be loved again while still holding on to a love I once had.

I learned what a wondrous gift love is and…


Added by WolfWife on May 31, 2012 at 11:29pm — 27 Comments

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