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People tell me I'm a good writer.
People tell me I'm a compelling writer.
People tell me that I write in such a way that my words affect them.
So why can't I express fully, in a way that makes me feel that *I* understand, how much I hurt and how incredibly devastating it is to be a widow?
I look through thesaurus entries:
Devastated: anguised, cheerless, dejcected, depressed, despairing, distressed, down, heartbroken, heartsick,…Continue
We all have to find what works for us when it comes to getting through the pain of loss. My way is my way. Yours is yours. I've used writing my entire life to work through difficult spots and to understand my life. I think its a tool that anyone can use. You don't have to show anyone your writing, you don't even have to save what you write. Or you can start a blog, write a letter, or keep a journal devoted to your grief. The simple act of writing down your deepest feelings has been proven to…Continue
Grief and hope try to be friends, but it isn't easy. Grief pulls back, gets scared, loses its mind in the past. Hope moves forward quickly, not even imagining all the trouble that might lie in wait up ahead. Hope is full of energy. Hope wants to branch out, try something new, get out and get going.
Grief takes a big long nap and is grateful for the quiet. Grief needs to lose weight and feels too heavy to get up and start all over again. Grief holds on tight to what is known.…Continue
I've been blogging since before my wife and daughter were taken from me, and our families, on February 5, 2011, in a violent accident on a snowy highway (http://sadandchara.blogspot.com.) The response of my local community and the world at large has been overwhelming and positive. However, I think it's going to be nice to have someplace to blog about the things I just don't want to, or feel I can't, put on that blog. Things that I know people…Continue
Writing about emotional upheavals has been found to improve...physical and mental health...to reduce anxiety and depression, improve grades in college, and...aid people in securing new jobs.
The word "acceptance" has been like a mantra to me since my husband died on January 14, 2006. For me, working to accept his death has been one of the most important steps in my own healing. I accept that Ken is gone. I accept that I must continue to live well without him. I accept that I will never forget him and that the sadness of his death and the joy of our 15 years together have woven together as part of the person I am today.
I wrote this poem to confront head-on the…Continue
I can remember it like it was yesterday: the heart-pounding, animal-like fear I felt when we found out that Ken had cancer. If anything is going to activate fear, there's nothing like a cancer diagnosis preceded by weeks of tests and not knowing the outcome. The doctor appointments, the scans, the x-rays, the diagnostic surgeries, the lack of control, put it all together you've got the perfect recipe for being scared out of your mind. That's just my story. For some of you, it was a call from…Continue
Added by Jill on April 1, 2011 at 1:30am — No Comments
After Ken died, our children were little. I didn't want them to forget the memories that belonged to them of their father; not just the stories others would tell them about him, but their very own personal memories. So, night after night, in the days following…Continue
I explore grief in writing as a way of healing. Some days, I give writing prompts you might want to try yourself. Other days, I just write. Either way, solid research shows that writing about your deepest, most important feelings can help you feel better. And hey, what's deeper than losing a spouse. Not too much!
If you enjoy my blog, I'd love to hear from you.
If you have ideas for good writing prompts to encourage others to write about their loss, please send them…Continue
Added by Jill on February 28, 2011 at 9:05pm — No Comments