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The Hungover Widow's Blog (18)

Patton Oswalt: Why does it take a celebrity to talk about widowhood?

Mainly, this: I am grateful that wonderful online magazine Ravishly asked me to do an article on the media reaction to Patton Oswalt's engagement just 15 months after his wife died. It's the first time a magazine has commissioned me to write for them. Same day deadline. Here it is:… Continue

Added by The Hungover Widow on July 17, 2017 at 2:46am — 1 Comment

What I Want You to Know about Widowhood on "Ravishly"

I am grateful to have my first article up on "Ravishly," a cool online magazine for women, about the topic closest to my heart: The importance of reaching out to the widowed (even if it feels awkward to talk about death). For me, loneliness was the worst part of being widowed. It almost destroyed me. Here's the link: http://www.ravishly.com/what-i-want-you-know-about-widowhood.



It's funny too. I go through… Continue

Added by The Hungover Widow on June 29, 2017 at 4:18am — No Comments

My Father's Day Tribute in "Modern Loss"

My latest article is in the wonderful online publication "Modern Loss." It's a father's day tribute to my dad who raised me after my mom died when I was ten. We became even closer when he helped me see that life could still be worth living after I lost my George in 2013. Here it is if you'd like to read it: http://modernloss.com/father-grief-mentor/ I so appreciate your patience with my posting links instead of actual…

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Added by The Hungover Widow on June 12, 2017 at 6:30pm — 4 Comments

My Latest Blog Post: 5 Questions to Ask Yourself if You're Ready to Date

I'm blogging again. My latest is about plunging back into dating too soon. Here are five questions I wish I'd seriously considered before jumping in: http://www.thehungoverwidow.com/dating-for-widows-and-widowers-5-questions-to-ask-yourself-if-youre-ready-to-date/



My blog is "The Hungover Widow." With apologies for this format, but I'm too lazy to retype.… Continue

Added by The Hungover Widow on May 25, 2017 at 8:24am — No Comments

A Widow's Galentine to Her Girlfriends

My Valentine to my yoga tribe is in Modern Loss, an online journal about coping with grief. This is the link to the article: A Widow's Galentine to her Girlfriends.  It's about how making women friends really helped me to cope with my loneliness as a widow.  It's a turning point for me because I was a crazy online dater for a while after George died and this is in part how I got healthier about…

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Added by The Hungover Widow on February 13, 2017 at 1:00pm — No Comments

Coping with Coming Home to an Empty House

So I went to the Women's March in Walnut Creek, CA. And it was exhilarating. Then to the memorial of a friend's mother. I was so grateful to be doing these things with friends, women in my writers group. Being connected and coping with loneliness have been my biggest challenges. But then it's home to my lovely, but empty, house, leading to my latest blog post here:… Continue

Added by The Hungover Widow on January 24, 2017 at 8:07am — 3 Comments

What I Learned My This Year as a Widow

Sorry to post this way, but I have a blog and I'm too lazy to type things twice. April 10, 2016 marked my third year as a widow.I learned a lot this year about making friends, writing and discovering solo travel. Here's my site,http://www.thehungoverwidow.com/.

Added by The Hungover Widow on December 30, 2016 at 9:12am — No Comments

Widowed over the Holidays

I have a new blogpost on getting through the holidays after loss. I'm shifting my perspective, trying to laugh at the absurdity and feeling a bit of gratitude. It's here: http://www.thehungoverwidow.com/widowed-over-the-holidays/. It's also a paean to my broken dishwasher.

Added by The Hungover Widow on November 20, 2016 at 11:16am — No Comments

10 Things Not to Say to Widow on RD

I'm in Readers Digest with this article: http://www.rd.com/advice/relationships/never-say-to-widow/. Maybe it'll help with awareness and tactlessness. I write from my own experiences. I'm on vacation without my husband and it's hard to do stuff you always thought you'd do together. When I see older couples in my tour group help eachother over cobbled streets I get a pang.

Added by The Hungover Widow on October 17, 2016 at 9:00pm — No Comments

From Married to Mutant

I've decided we don't always recover from loss, we mutate. I'm trying to mutate into someone who's better with options and uncertainty. When I tried to put that into action on a solo trip to Carmel, I rushed home. I write about it on my blog here: http://www.thehungoverwidow.com/from-married-to-mutant/

Thanks for listening,
Debbie

Added by The Hungover Widow on August 24, 2016 at 7:41pm — 2 Comments

Relationship Blues and Withdrawing for a bit

I don't post here much because I post ion my own blog, The Hungover Widow.  I'm trying to post weekly.  My latest two posts are about getting into relationships as a widow, Relationship Blues, and about ending the dating/appearance game, Becoming Pudding.  Please stop…

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Added by The Hungover Widow on August 3, 2016 at 9:09am — No Comments

My Loneliness Exposed in Woman's Day

So, a site I write for had a prompt "I am lonely."  I wrote about the loneliness I felt when my husband died and which I still feel sometimes. It's on Woman's Day here:  My Husband was My Best Friend

This was the hardest thing for me to put out there in public. I do wish we were talking more about loneliness. It's sort of the theme of the book I'm writing, but I definitely feel…

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Added by The Hungover Widow on June 20, 2016 at 11:30am — 10 Comments

A a Widow I Find Myself Being Clingy in New Relationships

That's the title of my article in Woman's Day magazine today. Here's the link: my clingy widow article

Please share if you know someone who can relate.  I…

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Added by The Hungover Widow on April 27, 2016 at 3:33pm — 4 Comments

Male Breast Cancer and My George (Corrected Link)

The Male Breast Cancer Coalition asked me to contribute George's story to their in memorium section. Their mission is to raise awareness about male breast cancer. Please check it out if you want.  It's how I met an lost my George. Here's the article: (Sorry, here's the corrected link):  In Memorium George Hansen at the Male Breast Cancer Coalition…

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Added by The Hungover Widow on April 19, 2016 at 3:30pm — 1 Comment

The Dark Side of Loss: Caregiver Guilt and Relearning Life

I have another article in Woman's Day magazine. It's about dealing with grief after George died of metastasized male breast cancer. And about how I had to start doing things on my own for the first time. It's called "How I Dealt with the Dark Aftermath of My Husband's Unexpected Death."



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Added by The Hungover Widow on April 12, 2016 at 7:15pm — 3 Comments

Widowhood and Sexuality: I Wrote about it in Woman's Day

A site I write for gave the writing prompt of "Sexuality as a Widow."  I wrote a piece and it's here in Woman's Day magazine: How I Began Exploring my Sexuality as a Widow.  (I didn't pick the title). I'm not sharing with my Dad, but you might want to take a look. This is as personal as I've gotten in print and, um, I feel a little exposed.…

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Added by The Hungover Widow on March 30, 2016 at 4:00pm — 2 Comments

Three Years After George Died in Elephant Journal

April 10, 2016 will be the three year anniversary of my husband George's death. I’d hoped to feel healed by now, to have emerged from grieving stronger and complete, but most of the time I don't feel that way. It’s like there’s this sad, little rodent within me that scurries against my ribs when it’s sad or anxious, like some part of me dissolved into this animal after George died...

This is the start of my article …

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Added by The Hungover Widow on March 26, 2016 at 10:30am — 5 Comments

The Hungover Widow (My Blog to Recover)

Hi, I'm not sure if this is the right pace to post.  But I blog about being widow.  Writing has helped me.  I have gotten some kind comments from other widowed folk that my writing has been useful to them.  I recently put up an article on the lasting guilt I felt  from being a very flawed…

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Added by The Hungover Widow on November 14, 2015 at 8:30am — 4 Comments

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