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Gina's Blog (9)

New Skin

Today is Chris's birthday. It was so different then how it should have been. There was no cake, there was no date night, card or presents. The Tigers game was on the radio in the car, i turned that immediately off knowing it would have been on if Chris was still here. I feel guilt that none of this is the same, but i know I can not live as though he is still here. All of this, living without him is so unbelievably hard. The loneliness and the pain of him not being here is comparable, as i have… Continue

Added by Gina on July 29, 2014 at 7:57pm — 3 Comments

A letter about your Daddy in you

Dear Gabby,

Its been a little over five months since your Daddy went to live with Jesus. You're 15 months old and your Daddy is coming out in you more than ever before. When the sun was too bright or an internal concentration took over, your Dad's eyes would narrow and his mouth would stay slightly open. You have that same look.

Your across the face half smile with your top teeth showing is your Daddy. Your love of bouncy balls, basketballs, tennis balls, plastic baby… Continue

Added by Gina on July 29, 2014 at 7:55pm — 1 Comment

Daddy's Eyes

Dear Gabby,

Do you remember your Daddy’s eyes?  His eyes showed you who he was, and who you were to him. If you can’t remember I will tell you about them as best I can. When your Daddy looked at you, love and adoration was spoken into your heart. When you first started to smile it was because of an uninhibited reaction by your Daddy’s look of unrelenting love that radiated…


Added by Gina on May 24, 2014 at 8:30pm — 1 Comment

A Birthday and a Hope


DSC_0025-2 Happy Birthday my big one year old! Wow, what a day! Did you realize that 38 people came to celebrate your life today? Did you also realize that all of your friends, “brothers” and “sisters” (the kids) outnumbered the mommy’s and daddy’s? Just so that you are aware, we are not doing this every year. You will not  have your own memory of this day, so I am going to do my best in giving you some of my favorite highlights.


I was holding you as the…


Added by Gina on April 15, 2014 at 7:00pm — 2 Comments

Dance in the Downpour

Dear Gabby,

Today as you were busy giving sloppy open mouth kisses to your adoring grandparents, your Uncle Dan and I spent our day listening with our ears and digesting with our hearts a host of information, wisdom, and advice from writers who have already gone ahead of us. I am listening to these writers because I want to learn how to write my story and your Daddy’s story so it will not be lost, and that it can be a part of your…


Added by Gina on April 15, 2014 at 6:59pm — No Comments

A Grief Observed Part 2 "Mysterious Love"


Everyone, who has gone through sorrow or tragedy, asks “Where are you God?” Maybe not out loud or maybe they try to dismiss it but deep within them it’s always wondered. C.S. Lewis describes when you are in most need of Him that it feels like, “a door…


Added by Gina on April 15, 2014 at 6:57pm — No Comments

A Grief Observed



Added by Gina on March 31, 2014 at 7:03am — 1 Comment

A perspective on grief and loss

Link to my blog


Grief and loss are very weird emotions. As our pastor reminded us, it can look different and be different for all of us. What I have realized is that my grief, and I am sure this is true of others, has come in several…


Added by Gina on March 26, 2014 at 7:11pm — 1 Comment

Im ok with hard as long as there is hope

This is a post from my blog at [email protected] 

It was right before Chris passed. 


Last night we were all told by his hospice nurse that if there was anything we wanted to say to Chris, now was the time. In the moment it seems so unreal. Can this really be happening? We’ve been through…


Added by Gina on March 26, 2014 at 7:08pm — 2 Comments

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