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Blue Snow's Blog – April 2012 Archive (4)
Interning the Ashes at the Grave
I woke up before the robins this morning with a dream still hanging around in the corners of my mind. I was searching in vain for Don’s phone number because I knew he’d overslept and wouldn’t be able to wake up without my help. My deceased parents were also in the dream and not at all concerned that I couldn’t find the number I was looking for. “Leave him alone,” my mom said, “He’ll be fine.”
It’s not unusual for me to wake up with a fragile dream hanging just out of…
ContinueAdded by Blue Snow on April 16, 2012 at 5:30pm — 3 Comments
Moving Forward....or Not
Leaning against the dining room wall is a poster with thirty-one photos that was made for Don’s memorial service nearly three months ago. I’m still amazed that it only took thirty-one photos to represent all the highlights and stages of a person’s life---his youth and formative years, Army Reserves, occupations and hobbies, important relationships and benchmark moments---from babyhood to old person status on one 20” x 30” poster board. I could have filled up more boards with more photos, of…
ContinueAdded by Blue Snow on April 15, 2012 at 10:30am — 4 Comments
This Year I Cry for Me
The first half of April, this year, is marked by many sad occasions for me. I already had Easter as the marker for the day my mom died although it actually happened on the 3rd. Easter, however, never falls on the same calendar date so it’s like there are two dates of sorrow instead of one for her. Next, Don’s ashes will be interned on the 16th which was our anniversary. Both our birthdays plus my parents’ anniversary also fall in this first 16 days of…
ContinueAdded by Blue Snow on April 9, 2012 at 11:00am — 2 Comments
No, Officer, It's Just my Husband
Oh my God, I can’t believe I have a box with Don’s ashes in the trunk of my car! Spur of the moment decisions always get me in trouble---not really, that’s just the message looping through my brain right now. But I am a schedule it kind of person. I don’t like surprises. This morning I took the dog down the nature trail in Don’s home town and afterwards I decided to swing around to the cemetery to see if the headstone for our joint grave had been placed. Sure enough, the sexton told me it…
ContinueAdded by Blue Snow on April 6, 2012 at 10:30am — 9 Comments
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