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Icecream's Blog (5)

Will You Remember Us?

When I think about my husband and all the things I loved about him, I try to keep his legend alive for my kids. Difficult to believe, it will soon be 5 years, and our memories of him are sadly beginning to fade. For my youngest, going from 9 to 14 and my oldest from 15 to building her own life at 20, a lot of time has passed. It is getting harder to remember what it felt like to not be empty. It is getting harder to remember all of the intricacies of his…


Added by icecream on October 19, 2016 at 4:37am — 1 Comment

A Better Ending

If I could have just one more day

When you weren't sick - you were still OK

I'd hold your hand and never let go

I'd kiss you with the depth of my soul

I'd compliment you through the night

Put my arms around you - hold you tight

Run my fingers through your hair

We'd talk smile and laugh, like we hadn't a care

We'd tickle our daughters, laughing together

Build strong family bonds, forever and ever

Then I'd stop the clock and…


Added by icecream on July 19, 2014 at 6:29pm — 1 Comment

Anniversary Today

Today would have been our 23rd wedding anniversary.  How have I already spent this day alone 3 times? I have no idea. Don't ask me what I did the last two years, I haven't a clue. I am sure I will reflect next year back to this year and also have no idea how I spent today either.

I do remember our 20th anniversary - our last. We never did much for our anniversaries, but we figured this one was special, so we snuck away for an overnight and booked a golf getaway. I think you golfed…


Added by icecream on June 1, 2014 at 3:00pm — 8 Comments

Maybe in Heaven....

This site has really helped me to address thoughts and emotions that I have held at bay the last 2 years.  I am glad I have an outlet now to 'express' not 'suppress' and post some of my writing to those of you who truly understand. I hope it helps you all in some way - maybe simply in the fact that we understand eachother. 

Maybe in heaven it doesn't hurt so much

Maybe in heaven you can still feel my touch

Maybe in heaven you don't cry

Maybe in heaven…


Added by icecream on May 28, 2014 at 4:29pm — 2 Comments

Our New Reality

I juggle the kids, the bills, the life

Trying to run from the label: lonely wife

I miss you so much, it hurts so deep

It's 3am, I'm still unable to sleep

Your touch, your kiss, your love - all gone

I'm a shell of a person, without you to lean on

You made me better; you made me complete

It should have been someone else when God hit "delete"

Couldn't he see we were a pair?

A love beyond measure, no one could compare



Added by icecream on April 13, 2014 at 9:02am — 10 Comments

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