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Abby's Blog (10)


The first anniversary of the death of my husband was January 20th, 2012. I had blogged about January being an extremely difficult month for me but that I understood that it would be, how could it not be?  It was going to one full year since I saw my 'sweet boy' and longer since I held him and talked to him. Well, February is soon to be done and my mood is still the same - sad, emotional, angry, depressed, lonely, shocked, emotionally spent and exhausted.

I have always been a very…


Added by Abby on February 26, 2012 at 2:22pm — 2 Comments


Added by Abby on January 25, 2012 at 10:55am — 14 Comments

Days Before The ONE Year Anniversary of the Death of My Husband

January 20th, 2012, will mark the ONE year anniversary of my husband's death. I am writing now as I am feeling myself slowly going down hill and filled with much anger, which is new for me.

This year has been the worst year of my life in every way possible. I have experienced all of the 'firsts' except the big one coming up on the 20th and have to say that I cannot imagine that all of those dates will not continue to be difficult days in my life. They will always be meaningful dates…


Added by Abby on January 4, 2012 at 1:00pm — 9 Comments

Will you be dining by Yourself or will someone be joining you?

I just got back from my FIRST 4 day trip on my own. I felt that I needed to just "get away from everyone" for a few days and just think and try to have fun.  Well, after the first 12 hours I could see that this trip was going to be a very difficult one.

When I first arrived, I changed into my swimsuit and headed down to the ocean! What a gorgeous beach and that water was a colour blue I will always remember. BAM, I started to cry almost immediately after hitting the ocean. I…


Added by Abby on September 1, 2011 at 7:19pm — 8 Comments

My Legal Journey Part 2

I sent my letter of complaint to the Ontario College of Physicians and Surgeons last week. On Tuesday I received a call that they received my complaint and wanted to know why I had 4 doctors listed in the wrongful death of my husband. The gentleman on the phone explained the process to me and he was asking me more specific questions that I wanted directed at each specific surgeon.  I found myself becoming emotional on the phone as I was getting so angry that I have to go through this…


Added by Abby on July 15, 2011 at 6:00pm — 2 Comments

My Journey to Find Justice Begins

Last Monday, I went to see a lawyer regarding what I know in my heart to be a series of mistakes and cover ups that resulted in the untimely and unlikely death of my husband.  The lawyer I saw came highly recommended as one of the top two malpractice litigators in Toronto.   I thankfully had already demanded my husband's medical chart and after a number of other physicians have read it and rendered their opinions, this lawyer was talking to me while reorganizing my husband' chart on a large…


Added by Abby on July 4, 2011 at 7:00am — 6 Comments

I feel that I am in that "IN BETWEEN PHASE"

I am just over the 4 month period and while I can see a huge transformation from where I was, I am profoundly sad when I am alone with my thoughts.  I am proud of what I have accomplished, simply surviving the worst pain in my life and losing the love of my life so unexpectedly.

I am working and…


Added by Abby on June 13, 2011 at 6:50pm — 15 Comments

What does moving on mean?

January 20th, 2011, my world came to a grinding halt. The love of my life died, with no warning, no health issues, on the contrary he was an athlete. He had surgery that he was expected to make a full and strong recovery from, and then a series of events resulted in a cascade of medical issues that finally resulted in his death. I am still in the process of gathering medical information and will be confronting his surgeon. I want him to go through every aspect of his surgery (I requested and…


Added by Abby on June 2, 2011 at 5:00pm — 17 Comments

Our Anniversary and WHY?

Yesterday was my anniversary and a very sad day for me indeed. I worked for most of the day, had lunch with a friend and finished the day with my counsellor. She had told me the week before that it may be a good idea to bring in a wedding photo so that we could discuss my anniversary.

I tried to put my favourite pic of us in a bag to…


Added by Abby on May 14, 2011 at 12:30pm — 7 Comments

Do I really want to move on?

It has now been 103 days since I lost my husband and I just finished sobbing on the telephone with a close friend of mine.  Last night a male friend called me up and said he wanted me to go for dinner with him.  I  hemmed and hawed because I had not been out in public since my husband passed. I thought that since it was a Monday night that the restaurant would be pretty empty and we went rather only had a…


Added by Abby on May 3, 2011 at 3:27pm — 14 Comments

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