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Djunclerell's Blog (9)

Starting a new journal today

I'm starting a new journal today.  I've been journaling for over 8 years.  My grieving didn't start when my husband died, it started when his sickness took over his body.  All of my thoughts, dreams, anxieties get recorded.  Sometimes I write letters to express to some what I can't in person.  But these journals have been my safety net.  I have fancy ones, but this month just a plain red one without any pictures on front or any inspirational words…


Added by djunclerell on March 6, 2016 at 8:00pm — 3 Comments

The Appendix of Your Story

After we are done creating our personal stories, will need to create a section called "The Appendix".  Usually the appendix is a location where reference sheets are added or templates or even samples of work.  But as widows, what will be in our appendix?  I think my appendix may contain sections for every year I've been widowed. I'm only three years out.  So my story would now end with three inserts in my appendix.  

The year one section in my appendix will have would…


Added by djunclerell on October 28, 2015 at 7:56am — 1 Comment

Am I a widow(er) or a single parent?

My husband was ill from the time my youngest daughter was in Kindergarten.  He passed when she was a sophomore in high school.  Her high school years were very routine,  The abundance of paperwork came home on the first day of class every year.  Since Kindergarten, I had been the one filing out those papers.  So after my husband's death, that routine continued.  I always took her to school while in high school and we had another parent to bring her home.  So after his death that continued.…


Added by djunclerell on September 2, 2015 at 6:10am — 6 Comments

How will you cast your stone?

I just finished watching a Today's Show repeat showing Kathy Gifford's tribute to her late husband. She talked about her husband's faith not in religion but in God. She talked about a recent trip to the actual place where a Shepard boy, David had slain the Giant Goliath. She talked about how her husband took stones from that site to keep as mementos. And how as his children graduated from high school and college in that order, he gave them one of the stones. And ask them, how would they cast… Continue

Added by djunclerell on August 17, 2015 at 3:48pm — 3 Comments

It's my space now, now what?

I'm approaching my 3 year mark, October 11th will mark 3 years that my husband has made his transition.  My life has been in whirlwinds since.  So many changes.  I put my house up for sale, I moved me and my 2 daughters into an apartment, we are happy here.  Before we arrived in our new space, so many obstacles had to be moved out of our way.  Unfortunately those obstacles were family members.  My mother had 13 brothers and sisters.  All of them had children, which resulted in me having over…


Added by djunclerell on August 8, 2015 at 5:32pm — 3 Comments

Colors all around me.

After that great opening speech from our leader, Michelle. I think the color symbolizes our choices. Today I chose to wear a brown dress. Still quite dull, but I brought a dress that is brown and turquoise. It's colorful. The brown is not over powerful. There was another dress that was quite colorful, but I felt self-conscious about wearing it. I'm moving into my color. But it's not my favorite color which is pink. It's like a peacock. Lots of colors. There are every where. Colors represent… Continue

Added by djunclerell on August 1, 2015 at 8:34pm — No Comments

I left my heart in San Francisco

After 2 1/2 years out, I would think that my widow brain would have matured and that the learning and observing patterns would once be restored.  But I have proof that this is not true.  I have been anticipating my participation in all three Camp Widows this year after I attended Camp Toronto this past fall.  I knew this summer I would be in California, my first visit of course, in the presence of my peers for bonding and emotional growth.  I made my air reservations at the beginning of…


Added by djunclerell on July 23, 2015 at 4:49am — 2 Comments

All inclusive

I'm just preparing to leave my vacation. I came to Mexico with a widow associate. It was an all inclusive resort but for adults only. My widow associate thought that would be ideal because we wouldn't be bothered with so many children that now flood many vacation hideaways. I dont think I would care either way. I love kids. And I've alWays traveled with them. But they are older now so this year we took separate vacations. I had no idea that an all adult resort would be an all couple resort. So… Continue

Added by djunclerell on July 17, 2015 at 8:17am — 4 Comments

How does God choose his Angels

To really understand this blog we must imagine that we live in a virtue world where everyone believes in a higher source for their being and that Our loved ones have transitioned into a place that according to our higher source is a better place. We can examine this by trying to understand what this place has compared to the place they leave. I question why God chose my angel. Why couldn't he just leave him as a mortal being. Just to give a little background. I met my husband when I was a… Continue

Added by djunclerell on July 16, 2015 at 12:00pm — 1 Comment

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