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10 things NOT to say to the widowed. By Jean Powis

1. If there's anything I can do, just let me know. (most of the widowed won't ask for help but they NEED it)

BETTER::"I've got some free time on (Saturday?) Why don"t I come to your house & mow, change the oil, keep the

Kids......)?

2. How are you? This is common to ask but difficult for the widowed to answer truthfully. Better ::"I've been

Thinking about you. Would you like to go shopping, walking with me or whatever?". Knowing that someone really

cares means… Continue

Added by Jpswife(Cathy) on May 17, 2013 at 8:30pm — 9 Comments

HEAVENLY PILLOWS

I've worn out my pillows over the past few years

There've been flattened by sleepless nights and stained by salty tears

So I washed and fluffed them up and tried to get some sleep

I"d like to get a couple of new ones but good pillows aren' cheap

So I said a prayer and closed my eyes

And I woke up the next morning to a Heavenly suprize

There was a soft new pillow under my head

As I opened my eyes I saw a tag and this is what it… Continue

Added by Jpswife(Cathy) on May 7, 2013 at 12:46pm — 6 Comments

Happiness in Your Life

I look bACK with forgiveness

both for myself & others

I look to the present

with appreciation,

For THOSE who are in my life

as well as THOSE who are not

I look to the Future

with FAITH & optimism

that things which never made sense

someday will,

& that GREAT things

are yet to happen.

(this doesn't seem remotely possible--especially the closer it is to losing your…

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Added by Jpswife(Cathy) on May 5, 2013 at 11:36pm — 2 Comments

THANKYOU FELLOW FRIENDS

I've Survived----you will too

1 year without John

Wish we hadn't met this way

But thankful I can share with you! YOU HAVE MADE A DIFFERENCE

1year in PARADISE. JOHN PAUL HICKS. 1964-2012

Added by Jpswife(Cathy) on April 25, 2013 at 10:44am — 6 Comments

LONGING FOR HEAVEN

" so many people think of Heaven as a place, but really it's a Person, Jesus,who is the very center of Heaven, is what makes it exciting to me. We have something like a homing detector in our hearts, and it's just NOT ringing for earth. It's ringing for Him in whom our deepest longings will be answered.....;being with the Lord Jesus where I will be perfectly & utterly at Home!"

*taken from Grieve Share--Joni Eareckson Tada

The added bonus I'll see my husband John, my mother &… Continue

Added by Jpswife(Cathy) on April 20, 2013 at 9:25am — No Comments

CAN I HAVE A DO-OVER??!!

When we were kids I loved playing make-believe or just imagining that things were different than they really were!!

Or just thinking "o I wish.... Or finding a genie & receiving 3 wishes. Or wishing upon a star..

How about throwing a coin in a 'wishing well " or fountain. 4 leaf clovers .... Shooting stars...

But I can still tell JOHN how much I love him & always will

Be thankful for ALL the good memories we made together & no one can take that… Continue

Added by Jpswife(Cathy) on April 4, 2013 at 9:23am — 1 Comment

A YEAR WITHOUT JOHN........

APRIL 25, 2013 marks 1 YEAR without John body, mind and soul!! :(

And 12 MONTHES OF grieve !!

52 weeks of sadness

365 days of sorrow

8,765 hours of Lonliness

525,900 minutes alone

31,556,926 seconds with Jesus walking by my side every year, month, week, day, hour & minute in the future!!:)

Added by Jpswife(Cathy) on March 25, 2013 at 11:03pm — 3 Comments

SECRET CUPID

I just wanted to share my first Valentine's without my spouse!! It's been almost 10 months since John died, we'd been married almost 29 years---and like most everyone else here I was dreading this holiday without him!! Not so much the candy & cards but the specialness of our love together!! And then I remembered---sharing & helping others would bring JOY to this day---especially if it was a SECRET!! SO I bought 3 Valentine's ballon's($1 each) and 2 Valentine coffee cups($1 at Walmart)… Continue

Added by Jpswife(Cathy) on February 22, 2013 at 11:36am — No Comments

my journey

HEY EVERYONE

I wanted to introduce myself---I'm Cathy Alias jpswife(John Paul). I'm here in the heart of. Dixie-Alabama hey y'all:). I don't eat 'maters', fried okra, chittlins, drink iced tea or marry my cousins.....or even say y'all.I was born in Akron, OH but I "ve spent the last 35 years here. 'My father was a preacher & we lived in ohio,Missouri, Tennessee, Texas and finally settled down here!! even though I now have a southern accent people here still say "you talk like a… Continue

Added by Jpswife(Cathy) on June 4, 2012 at 7:00pm — 12 Comments

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