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Patrick's Blog (3)

The Myth of Healing

People often talk about moving through grief as being a process of healing, the analogy with physical injuries is that bereavement causes an emotional injury and that grieving is the healing of that injury.  I don’t think that analogy works.  When Sharon died it felt like a huge chunk had been ripped out of my heart, but looking back now it wasn’t me who changed that night it was the world I was living in that changed.  Suddenly being alive hurt, not because I was wounded but because I no…


Added by Patrick on February 19, 2014 at 12:01pm — 8 Comments

Seeing grief as a chore

     I’ve often read that grief is a journey with steps forward and back but that’s not how I see it.  I think of my life as being like a huge rambling mansion with rooms ranging from the few that I mostly live in (my everyday life and thoughts), through to rooms that I use occasionally to rooms that I practically or actually never find myself going into. 

     When Sharon died a storm ripped through the mansion leaving behind a thick layer of dust that worked its way into…


Added by Patrick on June 7, 2013 at 1:54am — No Comments

My first blog post

I was widowed in November 2011.  It's a shame that I didn't find this site at the time, a blog like this would have been useful as I was trying to make sense of where I was and where I was going. All-in-all I'm OK at the moment, but I've still got quite a lot to work out about this…


Added by Patrick on May 20, 2013 at 1:34am — 3 Comments

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