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11/2/11
Talk to Andy's Mom on Halloween and can't believe my sister in law blames me for this. My mother in law says she doesn't, she just wants answers. I keep trying to tell her....THERE ARE NO ANSWERS TO SUICIDE. I can't help but feel like it's my fault, even though everyone tells me I did all I could do. How do I stop feeling like this? Will it ever stop? I go to work everyday and feel like I'm trying to live but am I really or am I just going through the motions? I stay strong for my kids and try to make their lives as normal as possible. What else can I do? Life has to get better some day.
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Comment by Poppys Girl on November 3, 2011 at 5:54pm -
I am so sorry for your loss on top of having to deal with others. Everyone has their own free will and no matter how hard we may try we can not control or stop what they do. Pray one day you will have peace in your life.
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Comment by DonnaReid on November 3, 2011 at 12:01am -
Jaoli, grief brings out such strong and strange emotions. I think Carolynne hit the nail on the head with misdirected anger. As difficult as it is, please try to let the negative comments bounce off of you rather than sinking in. Grief is such a difficult journey and you certainly don't need anything more to deal with. I'm sure you know how important it is to take care of yourself so that you can be there for your children.
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Comment by Joyce on November 2, 2011 at 11:16pm -
Hugs Jaoli, I agree with Carolynne, your SIL is probably just in pain. You are going thru the motions, but in doing that you are making progress you don't even realize yet. We will all get though this together one day at a time.
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Comment by carolynne on November 2, 2011 at 10:47pm -
Jaoli, (((hugs))) I'm so sorry. I am sure your SIL doesn't really blame you, she's just misdirecting her anger over her own loss. You are doing the best you can and you are doing a GREAT JOB being there for your kids. Hang in there...you're right, it HAS to get better some day.
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