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Many people have vivid dreams about their spouses after they pass. I struggled with that lack of presence from my spouse. No visions, no dreams, nothing. It saddened me and I wondered why. What’s wrong with me that I cannot get any signs or communication even in a dream?
My husband , Randy, had lost his sight in his left eye due to the cancer tumor wrapping itself around the optic nerve. After the surgery which took his eye, he would have phantom visions of a little black fluffy dog on his shoulder. The ophthalmologist told us that this is a normal reaction of someone that has lost their sight. Very similar to a person that has lost a limb due to an amputation, they will still have feelings in their limb that is not there. Randy continued to have this little black fluffy dog on his shoulder for some time. He had called it his phantom puppy. After his passing I begin helping a friend in her dog grooming business. To make a long story short, she had a small dog that needed to find a good home. I told her I would help out and be a foster parent for a 4 lb. black toy poodle named Liza until the right home was found for her and she could be adopted. She is a sweetheart and I would just take her home at night after helping out at the dog groomers during the day. I had a 14 year old needy basset hound and did not need or want another dog. But after 2 weeks, the poodle had found a home with me and I could not let her be adopted by anyone other than me. The basset hound even seemed to do better with her around. One day it just dawned on me, Randy had sent this "little back fluffy dog" to me so I would not be so lonely. She has unusual markings also. She is black with tan eyebrows and tan socks. I looked it up on the web and low and behold it is called PHANTOM markings. What are the chances that my husband’s phantom black puppy is now mine? It brings me a smile and a warm feeling looking at her now knowing that he sent her to me. It was a sign right in front of me but I could not see it until months later. I had to put my basset hound down a couple of months after my husband passed. As it should be, Randy got the basset hound and I have the little black phantom poodle!