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Many people have vivid dreams about their spouses after they pass. I struggled with that lack of presence from my spouse. No visions, no dreams, nothing. It saddened me and I wondered why. What’s wrong with me that I cannot get any signs or communication even in a dream?


My husband , Randy, had lost his sight in his left eye due to the cancer tumor wrapping itself around the optic nerve. After the surgery which took his eye, he would have phantom visions of a little black fluffy dog on his shoulder. The ophthalmologist told us that this is a normal reaction of someone that has lost their sight. Very similar to a person that has lost a limb due to an amputation, they will still have feelings in their limb that is not there. Randy continued to have this little black fluffy dog on his shoulder for some time. He had called it his phantom puppy. After his passing I begin helping a friend in her dog grooming business. To make a long story short, she had a small dog that needed to find a good home. I told her I would help out and be a foster parent for a 4 lb. black toy poodle named Liza until the right home was found for her and she could be adopted. She is a sweetheart and I would just take her home at night after helping out at the dog groomers during the day. I had a 14 year old needy basset hound and did not need or want another dog. But after 2 weeks, the poodle had found a home with me and I could not let her be adopted by anyone other than me. The basset hound even seemed to do better with her around. One day it just dawned on me, Randy had sent this "little back fluffy dog" to me so I would not be so lonely. She has unusual markings also. She is black with tan eyebrows and tan socks. I looked it up on the web and low and behold it is called PHANTOM markings. What are the chances that my husband’s phantom black puppy is now mine?  It brings me a smile and a warm feeling looking at her now knowing that he sent her to me. It was a sign right in front of me but I could not see it until months later.  I had to put my basset hound down a couple of months after my husband passed. As it should be, Randy got the basset hound and I have the little black phantom poodle!



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Comment by Susan B on April 10, 2012 at 7:22pm

Becky--aren't animals wonderful? a phantom kitty appeared after my mom passed away, and she's been such a comfort to me after Keith died. She is so sweet and well mannered, so easy top be around. I think my mom sent her!

p.s.: I never have dreams about Keith either. Except one, he was naked, and leaving the bedroom--all I saw was his cute little butt going around the corner!  :-)

Comment by kimkirt (KK) on March 24, 2012 at 7:49am

Becky! Your story gave me goosebumps! I am so glad that your little Phantom found you. I think you BOTH needed each other. I agree with Blue Snow, it is a reminder to keep open to signs, sometimes we expect the to come slap us in the face when all along they have been there right under our noses. Hugs to you!

Comment by Anne63 on March 23, 2012 at 7:52am

Your story brings tears to my eyes. I'm so sorry about your basset hound but glad that you have another furry love child to enjoy. Hugs

Comment by Blue Snow on March 23, 2012 at 7:23am

What a wonderful reminder for us all to keep open to the signs that are there all along but we often do not see through our grief.

Comment by kimmi on March 23, 2012 at 5:47am

What a beautiful story! I hope your little Phantom poodle brings a smile or two to your face everyday!

Comment by rodsgurl09 on March 23, 2012 at 2:38am

What an incredible story, Becky. I'm so happy for you!

Comment by Lisa (lost) Lamb on March 23, 2012 at 1:28am

Becky: I'm so happy for you that you finally received a sign from your husband. Sometimes I thing the signs are there but through are grief we can't always see them,as for dreams I know because of some of the medication I'm on I no longer dream or I just don't remember them. There are so many things that happen in our lives that most people don't even notice, but if you stay open to the possibilities anything is possible. Sending you peace and healing with each new day.  - Lisa

Comment by Lisa ( Marielee) on March 22, 2012 at 9:22pm

Becky- This is awesome- So happy for you and so right ! They are watching out for us in their own ways :)

Blessings- Lisa

Comment by Joyce on March 22, 2012 at 4:26pm

Oh Becky, I so love this story.  Thanks for sharing.

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