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I was having coffee with a friend today (i.e. laying on my couch, as I have a bout of Chronic Fatigue and am just beat). We were talking a relationship I have with a couple of old friends that has gone Deep South. Very sad. A fifty year friendship. While we were talking about this, she recalled a convention she attended about positive thinking and forgiveness. The man running the conference suggested writing three positive memories a day about the person. The researcher who had studied this found it was really successful in improving relationships.
I jumped to using the same technique for writing blogs. It is hard for me to sit down and write a whole blog. I seem to still be in somewhat of a fog and have a lack of focus right now at four months out. Still, I am almost frantic with worry at times that I will forget Jud or nor proceed through my grief as I would like to. So using this same technique, modified a little, I am going to start writing three memories a day (and also memories and issues about Jud's illness and dying) in a notebook next to my bed. Hopefully this will help me to realize that I can remember many things about our almost forty years of life together. Maybe some will serve as blog starters. Maybe some will even someday be a help for memory books for future grandchildren.
I am anxious to see how it works and will let you know if it is helpful.