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3rd Wheel
Well, tonight I am going out to dinner with another couple. Just the 3 of us. The perverbial 3rd wheel. I have mixed emotions about this. On one hand,I really miss going out to dinner and having something besides potato chips on a Friday night. On the other, it is just a reminder that I am not part of a couple anymore...and it hurts.
They are good , caring friends and I shouldn't be nervous.But I am. I just worry that I don't have anything to talk about other than my sorry life. I really don't want to break down in the restaurant either.
Another IT SUCKS moment. At least I have a designated driver!!!
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Comment by Sherbear on July 28, 2012 at 10:25am
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I'm glad it went well for you. I have a couple who always invite me to go camping with them in their RV. They are just the perfect people to do this with.
I hope this couple will be one of those for you.
It's not always easy to be with couples, but sometimes it does work.
Big ((((Hugs)))) to ya
Sherry
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Comment by honeys(puddin) on July 28, 2012 at 8:36am
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The more often you do it then the easier it will become...or at least that's what I've been told. I haven't done it yet. Hope it went well.
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Comment by LaurieR on July 28, 2012 at 1:51am -
((Jody)). I hope it went well.
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Comment by Barbie Doll on July 28, 2012 at 1:41am -
I'm going out with my husband's best friend and his girlfriend next week and I'm dreading it too. Going out to dinner was a great pleasure in the past but I have not been going out since he passed 7 months ago. I want to go out and enjoy a "normal" evening but it's going to feel so strange not to be with my husband. I also feel bad because I know his best friend would rather go out with my husband than with me and he is just being kind and a good friend by taking me out. I think I'll have to drink lots of wine:)
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Comment by Kate on July 27, 2012 at 11:06pm -
Hey Jody, So many things we have to adjust to, none of them good. I hope your dinner went ok and your friends are the kind that can talk openly and listen and let you be however you needed to be even if that was breaking down. I hate being that 3rd wheel, so much so that I have only gone out for dinner maybe 3 times in the 11 months since Jeff died. And I totally get the "what will I talk about" part. There is not much of anything good or happy or interesting going on in my life right now. I dread the question "so, what have you been up to lately". I hope your evening out turned out to be better than you expected. xo
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Comment by MissingRKK on July 27, 2012 at 10:39pm -
Jodi, I have been struggling with this as well. How did it go?
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