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4 years....
This past May 3rd, was the 4 year mark. Four years since my world blew apart. I've been reading the comments posted on this web site and my tears started flowing. It is hard to contain them because I have been where most of these precious people have been. I know the shock, I know the anger, I know the pain, and I know the struggle of having to move on. Every morning I knew the realization that I would not see my Gregory's face nor hear his voice calling me his baby...and still I placed one foot in front of the other. It has gotten easier. Lord knows, getting to this point has been rough. I no longer wear my "happy face" mask...found that it didn't conceal the turmoil in my spirit and the sadness prevailed anyway. I have learned that happiness comes in "moments" and I have learned to appreciate them. A good friend told me that losing Greg would be my cross I must bare. Boy, he wasn't kidding.
So, life goes on....and for that, I am grateful. Didn't think I could say that a few years ago. I have done a lot of things I didn't think I could have done a few years ago....I have found a job that I love.....I have remarried a wonderful man....have starting enjoying the little hobbies and events of life that I hid from previously. Yes, life does go on. Yes, the pain will lessen...and yes, you will begin to live again instead of just existing. Hope this gives someone out there a little glimmer of hope....let me just go on to say, it helps having a great support system, a loving family and friends, and a loving God. If not for my faith, and the knowledge that I will one day see Greg again...
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Comment by lamw18 on May 22, 2011 at 7:39pm -
Thank you for sharing. I hit my 4 year mark last month. I don't think I am at your point but I feel I am getting there. Baby steps
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Comment by Grits504 on May 20, 2011 at 10:46pm -
Thank you so much for sharing this. I really needed to read this tonight. I spent most of my day crying & feeling so down & hopeless. Your words were so encouraging to read.
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Comment by Jill on May 17, 2011 at 9:42am -
Turning the corner is a wonderful thing. Thanks for this message of hope.
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Comment by Lisa ( Marielee) on May 17, 2011 at 12:49am
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Thank you for sharing a little bit of how far you have come. You gave each of us hope that our world will straighten out a little bit someday. I have shed tears and smiled through those tears sometimes from the posts here. This site is a beacon of hope in itself. Thank you friend for being there to encourage and uplift those who are still new to this journey. Blessings to you ,
Lisa
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Comment by NMWidower on May 17, 2011 at 12:18am -
Thank you for this post. I too have shed many a tears since I have been here as well reading people's posts and remembering too that sharpness of pain.
Thank you for giving people here a sense of hope from someone who has rebuilt life after such a painful loss. I know I'm not there yet myself but look forward to the day when I will get there too. Thank you for the words of hope..
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Comment by Krista Westervelt (whoknows) on May 16, 2011 at 6:46pm -
Thank you for sharing this. :)
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Comment by Dawn- Clouds Mum on May 16, 2011 at 3:26pm -
Thank you for your shining beacon of light. At 5 months it is still a little raw, but looking back it is getting better now.
I feel so encouraged by the fact so many of the widows here have trodden their paths and have been able to move forward with their memories intact and build good lives. It is a slow journey and the path is rough, but it has to smooth out one day. When we get there you are all there smiling and encouraging us. Thank you.
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