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Hello ALL!!! This year will be 10 years since my love was suddenly gone. We seriously dated for 5 years and it was in our near future to get engaged. I was 28 years old when he left this earth. I…
Hello ALL!!! This year will be 10 years since my love was suddenly gone. We seriously dated for 5 years and it was in our near future to get engaged. I was 28 years old when he left this earth. I've had relationships in between but few and far in between. I lost almost 5 years of dating after he passed, and I sit here today and wonder.......Could it really be that NO ONE has come along again???????? Maybe these walls are thicker than I think they are!! Every day is different, some days I feel confident about finding someone. Other days like the last many, I feel hopeless. What I really desire is to fall in love again. The urge is so strong and it gets pretty frustrating. I have a lot of love inside me and it is being wasted by just sitting here. I want to express it to someone badly!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Comment by Daniegirl24 on August 12, 2012 at 8:53am -
Yes, I've been definitely living in the now more often. I am attending school for the first time after a long time and the program is intense... so I don't really put much effort in looking for a partner... I just don't know................
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Comment by celestia (Suzanne) on August 11, 2012 at 6:00pm -
Me too. I've always been introverted. I also still have a kid at home. 16 years old. I guess I am selfish in a way because I want to see him through to College before I get involved with someone. I like to think in a few years when he's off on his own adult life I will be more naturally inclined to *look* for a partner. <shrug>
Above all else I kind of live in the now as much as possible and my now doesn't have a lot of room for a love interest. I guess time will tell. :)
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Comment by Daniegirl24 on August 11, 2012 at 5:03pm
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WOW Suzanne, as soon as you said set in your ways and solitude....that is exactly me!!! Bad enough as it is, I've always loved being by myself. Not that its bad but, it is just more than normal. Now after all this time its like... I sure hope I can adjust things and not be so selfish. It's going to be some work but that's fine with me!!!
Bonnie, thank you it's great to hear that. Guess they say it comes along when you are not looking. Well, I'll keep looking the other way. :)
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Comment by celestia (Suzanne) on August 11, 2012 at 4:26pm
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Daniegirl,
Word for word I could have written this. This Oct. will be 11 years for me. SO LONG! I've had two relationships since he died and they were both pretty disastrous. I get alarmed some days because I think, "this really is not bad, this life of solitude." I think I've gotten WAY to "set in my ways" to be in a relationship. But, on the other days I say to myself, "I'm only 51. I have a lot of love and life left to give." It is a conundrum. And with all due respect, I don't think that "love will find me". I think if it's going to happen at all, I'm going to be the one doing the finding and right now I just don't have the stomach for it.
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Comment by bj628(Bonnie) on August 11, 2012 at 1:27pm -
You will find Love, when you least expect it.. There is someone special for you ... again
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