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God took my husband to be with him 6 weeks ago today. Let me first tell you that we grew up together in a small town in Tennessee. We married young I was 17 he was 18. The odds were against us for that very reason, but we made it 33 years together. His death was sudden, no worning at all. Our oldest daughters mother in law has passed away and she and her husband had to go to Houston Tx to tend to her and her matters. I and my mother went to my daughters to stay with the grandkids as the oldest had to go to school and the drive to her school was 45 mins morning and afternoon. So we elected to stay at my daughters that week. Terry my husband worked from home most of the time, he was a Systems Admin for a leading telephone company so it allowed him to work remotely. I was at my daughters for 5 days. I came home often to check on him and the dog almost everyday. On that Wednesday I had not come down because I had just been home the day before and got him everything he would need for a day or two..But after several attempts to reach him that day I got the feeling something was really wrong. I finished making the kids dinner and left to come home. The whole 45 min drive was in dread as I could feel something bad had happened. When I came home and opened the door I yelled out for him. I went to the basement door and yelled down to his office but he didnt answer. I knew for sure at that point. I just could not go down the steps so I went and got my neighbor to go down for me. His wife came with him and I am so thankful that she did because he went down and found my husband dead. He died peacfully, his hands still on his computer and sitting there like he was working. After an autopsy it was revealed that his heart was enlarged and had just stopped beating. My whole world changed at that very momment. It was like half of me had been ripped off and left bleeding. I miss him so much. We had 3 great kids together and a whole life of wonderful, love, fights, sicknesses and the stress of raising our kids. I would do it all again every bit of it.