I am writing this because of things I've read or chated about on this site. This is a women domanated site. Maybe men die sooner or women take better care of themselves but the fact remains this site has a low man percentage. I've heard the at the last Camp East there were 200 women and 3 men. Sorts says it all.I've been told that not may women here the other side so heres mine. First I DONT SPEAK FOR ALL MEN just me. Theres is a big difference between a man lossing his wife and a wife lossing her husband. Being a older man born in the 50's I was raised at a time when the fathers were WWII vets, a different breed. Do as I say period. Not like the fathers of today who want to reason with a child or buy them toys for their love. These guys had a different way, talk back you get smacked, do something wrong in school and the princable was the least of your problems and the dreaded "Wait till your father get home" that we all heard. I was raised that men do not cry and hold back pain no matter what. Every kid played tackle football without padding and if you got hurt you got back in the game to save honor. This is the basics of how it begains. In the neighborhood there is a widowed lady and the old guy who lives alone. The widowed lady gets help carrying her bags of food home and any yard work she needs done. Thats just how it was. The guy who lived alone "stay away from him" you dont know why and then the rumors start, He killed someone or he's a drunk who likes kids but later in life you find out he was just a guy who lost his wife and no one cared. Up until a couple years ago I never heard of the word widower. I knew what a widow was but widower never seen it on a job applaction wasnt there when I went into the military and didnt know any. Even in my family when a Aunt would pass the attention would be to the sisters not so much the uncles but when a Uncle passed it was different, we would go to my Aunts house on weekends bring her food and this would go on for months. Again I'm only writing this about myself not all men. This is a new age were men and women are equals but I dont see it. when a women losses her husband or loved one other women gather around. I believe it is because women are much more emotional and closer nitted then men. Men usually stand alone. Women or moms can cry for a birthday or a child being born and thats great but men or dads, well were like the piller of strenght for the family we dont cry we dont show emotions, at least not often and when we do we usually go off to be alone. This is where I see a big difference. When my wife died everyone looked to me for assurance. What are we going to do, what now dad? and so on.when a women losser her husband most are there to support her help her at least through the first couple days. The worst days. It seems to me that women get some help and guildance were men are suppose to no what to do like we lose a spouse often. We are lost not knowing how to show the emotions not knowing how to cry just hit and break things. Trying to learn overnight how to be the good guy and the bad guy at the same time. Women can start crying anytime anywhere and its OK men cant, I know most will say yes you can but most men cant. We need to go to our cars or some other secuded place. If you ever been to the chat on this site there are probable 4 maybe 5 guys online and on the sidelines reading. The chat is dominated by women. I just trying to bring to light some differences. My and most other guys on here have had our hearts ripped out our live crushed. The only real person on this earth that knew us,our emotions is gone. So while some may move on most of us will become the new "guy that lives alone" the one people tell their kid to stay from. So we cry in silence.