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Is this a new phase i am going into?...probably.

I am not mad or angry. But I am starting to feel frustration.

I have been looking into things I can do, groups I can keep busy and somewhat social. I admit I am having some anxiety about that.

Meeting new people and having to tell the story, which then again brings the raw emotions to the surface. feeling frustration that I have to go through this.

Well, I don't HAVE to....but I can't just be a lump on a log and just looking for more chores to do. But i need to do more. It's lonely now, and I don't like it.

Not looking for romance, but need some socializing. Feeling a little guilt along with that frustration too. I need to do more, but honestly I don't feel like

expending the emotional energy to meet people. This is so weird.

Ahhh man....this just really sucks. You start coming out of one phase, the fog starts to clear and into another.

I am frustrated I have to go through this......but ohhhh poor me, right? Suck it up!

I am not the one that battled cancer for 4 years and lost a life. Crap....I'm all messed up.

Riding the roller coaster and spinning in circles at the same time......and survivors guilt.

Maybe I should start drinking and drowned my sorrows....that's what all the songs seem to say.

Ha, yeah right. I am such a light weight. Two beers and I'm ready for a nap. A six pack lasts me about 2 months in the summer....LOL

Alright, enough complaining. Get some sleep and try again tomorrow.

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Comment by SweetMelissa2007 on March 27, 2016 at 12:15pm

The synonym for frustration is anger: the feeling of being upset or annoyed, especially because of inability to change or achieve something. When feelings are identified, they are easier to understand as well as work through. I used an emotion chart w/faces to help me. There are different types of emotion charts available on the web.

Comment by Bobbysgirl on March 25, 2016 at 4:50am
This is an awful journey that we all are going through. I lost Bob almost 3 years ago. He was a victim of dementia and I was his caretaker for several years. During that time we were very isolated. After he died it was very difficult for me to try to meet new people. I joined a Y and a social club and most of the people I met are very friendly. I don't usually tell my story. If someone asks me I tell them my husband was ill for a long time and I don't go into details. It is important to socialize and It is worth the effort. I miss my husband and think of him everyday. I still wear my wedding ring. As much as we would like to change the past we cannot. We can only live in the present. Alcohol doesn't solve anything, it just adds to the grief. I wish you well.
Comment by deaf widow on March 25, 2016 at 4:26am

I'm feeling the same emotions (survivor's guilt), DavidD.  When feeling super low, I've tried drinking a beer or two.  Then I sleep (what a relief).  Mostly, I drink coffee to try to motivate myself to do things, only to find myself not doing anything but just staring @ the emptiness and feeling lonely.  My neighbors wave and say "Hi", but that's all the conversation I get.  It's my fault 'cause I don't really know what to say.  Oh well...another day.

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