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Are you tired of crying? Are you tired of feeling sorry for yourself? What are you waiting for? A committee of friends to bind your wounds or maybe a White Knight to come riding in to save you from the perils of your own thoughts?

Don’t cry over the past, it’s gone.
Don’t stress over the future, it hasn’t arrived.

Yada yada, yada we’ve all heard that two-line platitude before. It goes around Facebook like a round-robin. Whoever coined those words knows jack-squat about widows. We cry over the past. It goes with the title. We stress over the future and if a White Knight did come riding in I’d probably tell him to go kiss the frigging wind as he rides off to live in the fairytale where he was bred. The only one who can fix what is wrong is...........


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Comment by Blue Snow on December 29, 2012 at 9:49am

Thanks Kshy and Jean, for the very nice comments!

Comment by kshy on December 29, 2012 at 4:30am
Powerful post, Blue. Thank you.
Comment by jean on December 29, 2012 at 3:36am

hmmm.. just read the two posts below this... brave it is ladies.. may we all be brave. And Wise.

Comment by jean on December 29, 2012 at 3:30am

nice Blue.. Nice.  :)   Thanks.

Comment by Blue Snow on December 28, 2012 at 7:24am

Dianne: I get it. When I was a caregiver I had a mantra and I repeated it to myself often and it helped with so many situations. People used to tell me how strong I was but I never felt strong was the mantra that gave me strength to accomplish what I did, like your one word 'brave' did for you. When I read your blog this morning about having one word instead of resolutions it gave me chills that 'brave' was your word for last year in light of the fact that this blog above ended with 'brave' in the graphics. (It's also one of the underlying theme in the blog.) Reading your blog was a sign that I am meant to have 'brave' for my 2013 mantra. Thank you for the inspiration!

Comment by Dianne in Nevada on December 28, 2012 at 6:48am

I love this, Blue ...I always look forward to reading your blogs. When I got to the bottom of your page and saw the crying lion graphic with the word "Brave" it brought a smile. That would have been an appropriate graphic for my blog post, too. I talked of the brave things I've done this year and, while I'm proud of those accomplishments and the forward steps I've taken, my post didn't really address just how very hard it was to do those things. Some readers get it, but most only see the black & white of the list of 'things' done and assume that I must be stronger than they are. I don't think strength has much to do with it really. It's my faith and my guy that push me along to the future. Guess I need to write about that.

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