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The day my husband left the house to run an errand and never returned because he suffered a massive heart attack and died--that was a huge blindside.  My life spiraled out of control pretty rapidly into a pit of anxiety and loneliness.  Gone without warning. 

Within days of the funeral service friends and family members returned to their daily routines leaving me feeling abandoned and utterly alone...another unexpected blindside.  For sure they would be there to hold me up when emotionally I could barely stand. Couldn't they see?  Wouldn't they help?  A painful blindside.

It is now 13 months.  I suppose not a very long time in the grieving process, but another blindside.  A perfectly wonderful man has come in to my life.  Unexpected.  My plans for my future did not include falling in love.  Male friendship for sure, but not romance.  This man has made me feel alive again.  He, too, lost his spouse over 4 years ago and totally understands the pain and the loneliness.  I am amazed, actually shocked, at discovering my ability to love did not go to the grave with my husband.  It just happened...completely blindsided.  This relationship may last a month, a year, maybe even the rest of my lifetime.  Whatever the time, it is comforting to know that I am able to give and receive love and it feels incredibly wonderful. I want to shout so loud that everyone can hear, " I am alive, I am alive, I am alive and, finally, it doesn't hurt."

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Comment by Patience on April 8, 2013 at 4:31pm

Happy to hear, Mariann, you give us hope :)

Comment by Moving On on March 10, 2013 at 7:57am

Mariann -

I just read this and find your new blindside to be very heartwarming and is something that can give everyone on WV hope for a new life.  It just shows that life can continue, although sometimes we never know, for us, when or how.  Your story and other's stories that have found love again shows, that as bad as things seem to be for us, just around the next corner, might be a new and wonderful life!  And, your blind side shows that we don't have to go looking for it, if it's there and meant to be, it'll come to us.  In fact, in my opinion, looking for it, just because we're lonely, isn't the right thing to do.  I'm truly happy for you and glad that you shared it on WV!  We all need to hear stories like yours - they give us the hope that we lost!  I hope that your new life continues to be as happy and wonderful for you as it is right now.  After all, you and we have been through, it's something you and all of us deserve, whether it's actual love or just feeling whole again!  Many warm hugs and continuing happiness to you!  Your friend, Stan  

Comment by lovie on February 26, 2013 at 7:33am

Mariann, this is such great news!!  As I read this, I kinda' felt the excitement of when my friends and I would giggle over the phone retelling about our previous night's dates. The feeling of falling in love and being in love and being loved is euphoria beyond description. Enjoy being ALIVE again. Best wishes for whatever and all that is ahead for you. Love is a many spendoured thing!  Thanks for spreading the joy, Mariann!

Comment by dlm94 on February 23, 2013 at 5:37pm

Thank you for this. I am only 3months, but the fear of being alone forever starts right away, I think. It is just so wonderful to hear that this has happened for you and...who know, for me too ... someday (far from today). Life is precious, enjoy!

Comment by Mac on February 23, 2013 at 2:07pm

Great Mariann! Very happy for you.

Comment by Sunflower37 on February 23, 2013 at 12:57pm

That's wonderful, Marianne.

Comment by Joyce on February 23, 2013 at 4:57am

That's wonderful Mariann, enjoy it!

Comment by Lori on February 22, 2013 at 9:11pm

love you mariann and so so understand live and enjoy!

Comment by Morgana (Janet) on February 22, 2013 at 3:18pm

Wonderful to hear Mariann.  Bask in the moments and enjoy life for what it offers us.  Hugs.

Comment by Cristina on February 22, 2013 at 11:29am

Awesome, Mariann.  Enjoy the Light.  We celebrate with you, for you. 

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