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Appetizer for two, when you are only one.

I went for a bike ride today in the historic district of my town. I went with a meetup group called Casual Bikers, which is exactly what I am. I have never met a hill I actually like, and this group goes about avoiding them in a nice manner. It was as beautiful a Connecticut day as you can have. Clear, dry, warm but not too warm. We have had tons of rain so the grass and the trees are a brilliant emerald green, while the spring flowers are at their peak, in every bright color you can think of. It was a nice time. When it was over, and I started to head out I decided that I really wanted to sit outside like a human being and enjoy a nice beer and some lunch. I dithered because I hate that question, at the host station, you know that question, "just you?".  Yeah, dammit it's just me and I deserve to sit out on the patio with the couples and the families. I like to sit at the bar, but this time I will take that table for two over there in the sun. I don't know about you, but I love those stupid little hamburgers called sliders. I know it's the same thing, as a grownup burger but I just like them. Of course, they are to "share". What do you do when, you just don't have anyone to share with at the moment.  I decided to get them anyway, take half home, no big deal I guess, but it made me think again, when I just wish I could have a lunch and a beer without thinking so much. I have been doing this dining by myself thing for a while and I wish I could get used to it. I wish appetizers came in one person size. I wish Bill had not died, I wish I had someone to eat lunch with today on this beautiful day after a really good bike ride. 

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Comment by katpilot on May 27, 2014 at 2:36am

One thing I miss very much is going out for just appetizers and cocktails with Kathy. Sharing was one of the best parts cause we shared everything anyway. It use to bug her if I would even say "I am going to get gas for your car". Her reply would have been "our car".  I still like to go out at least once a week and  I really don't feel like I am alone but I end up eating all of the appetizer. Most of them don't reheat well. No wonder I keep gaining weight. We would always share a bottle of wine since we got into fine wines over the years.  I am lucky I live where it is legal to cork the bottle and take it with you. I enjoy the rest at home another day.

I suppose I enjoy doing the things we did before even if it seems a little sad sometimes. It's still who we were. It's still who I became.

Comment by only1sue on May 25, 2014 at 9:33pm

Paula, me too.  I am so tired of "buy one, get the second one free" and dishes designed for two people when there is only one of me.  I have managed to eat out alone quite a lot since Ray died 20 months ago, there doesn't seem to be a lot of fuss if I dine alone at a table for two and in most restaurants the "how many?" query does not bring a frown when I say: "just me today".

My displeasure at the moment is based on the "twin share" of accommodation on tours etc.  I hate to have to pay heaps more for single suppliment.  Surely hotels in this day and age can mange a small neat room for one person? If they want to cater for the widows, and there are many of us surely they can manage to set up rooms suitable for our needs?

Comment by sugr-plum (shelly) on May 25, 2014 at 3:57pm

Good for you! Someday I really hope to be able to sit outside at a table for two with the same courage you have shown! I feel for you and all I can do is give you this hug ((( u )))  

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