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In 2003 Terry and  I took our first vacation without the kids. We took our jeep wrangler to the Rockies for trail busting and really a second honeymoon. We had the time of our lives and seen so much and really reconnected. Now I have made reservations for me and my son to go to the same place his daddy and I went to. Ty has never seen the Rockies and wanted to go really bad and I need to get away so off we go in about 4 weeks. This trip is bittersweet for me as I have so many memories and some I am sure that were forgotten will come to me when I see some of the things we saw together. But this time I will get to see them with our son and  we can talk about his dad. He is 24 and is finishing his last year of college this year (late bloomer as he wanted to take a couple years to experience life as a "free man" but decided there are better jobs available for college grads) hahaha what a relief for his dad and me. I cant wait to see the marvel in his eyes and the sights but I also know that my heart will break just knowing that my sweetheart wont get to see it with him. I think I may take some of his ashes (if I can part with them) and spread them in one of his most favorite spots. Illegal? maybe but I just might do it anyways. But me and my boy will have our own memories to carry home with us. Bittersweetness

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Comment by Renee on August 31, 2012 at 9:50am


It is bittersweet but I'm sure it will be worth it.  I just took our kids to Alaska for our one year mark(it was one of our favorite places to go), we had ceremonies and we spread a little bit of ashes, and talked as if Robert was with us and we all believed we could feel him. It made the one year mark not so hard. I hope you both have a good time, I'm sure you will. Hugs

Comment by honeys(puddin) on August 31, 2012 at 4:31am

Bittersweet indeed but it's also a new memory for your son with you.  Have a nice time:)



Comment by chez2all on August 31, 2012 at 2:09am

Tanya, enjoy your trip and the opportunity to do some special bonding with your son.  Spread some of his ashes if you feel it is whatever feels right for your healing journey.  Will be thinking of you, Chez

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