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Just started to come out of my depression fog after losing my husband unexpectedly 15 months ago, today I get news that they found a lump on my brothers pancreas.  He had been losing so much weight.   I can't cope with this, I am not emotionally ready to even think about this. I want to escape again from reality.  But also my brother will need me.  So shattered. Life is exhausting. 

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Comment by DIVA70 on September 25, 2019 at 1:29am

So sorry to hear about your initial lost which was hard enough but now to be faced with the news about your brother. Believe me I can relate. I lost my husband 16 months ago. Imagine being at the funeral home making arrangements for your husband and you get a call telling you to hurry to the hospital because  your brother is in ICU and not expected to make it! That was me! It was only my brother and I. He was never married and had been in a nursing home for a few years. All I can say is I had to take it one day at a time. I focused on getting my husband buried first and then I had to deal with the departure of my brother. The two men, outside of my father and my sons, who were the closest to me were gone. I hope you have a strong support team. I basically had to rely on my belief and faith in God. I miss both so much but I am thankful that neither one is suffering any longer. Watching my brother suffer as they made attempt after attempt to resuscitate him was beyond unbearable. I finally had to say enough is enough. Do what you can to support your brother through his illness. I am so glad now that my husband and I were able to take him out of the nursing home to attend a family gathering. It was the last outing he attended and he was so happy to see everyone and they were happy to see him too. Those pictures of he and my husband together have been a source of comfort to me when I have been at my lowest. Take care of yourself during this time. Don't be reluctant to take some you time .God bless.

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