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Dammitall!
I just was walking across the lobby at the bank I work at and saw a customer at the teller line that lost his wife a few months ago. The girls weren't saying anything to him. They were doing what most people on the other side do that don't "get it", they were ignoring him.
Dammitall!!!!
So I stopped walking, turned around and said "Mr. Norton, do you need a hug today?" He is kind of hard of hearing so he said "What?" and I repeated, loudly, "Mr. Norton, do you need a hug today?" and he replied sadly "Yes, I sure do." So I hugged him. I hugged him long and hard and he hugged me back. And while I was hugging him, I looked over his shoulder and saw the girls giving those sad/pity smiles.
Dammitall!!!
He said to me that nights are the hardest, when he goes to bed. I told him I knew and yes, they were. I also said "We will get there, one day, we will get there." and he said "I hope so." and he walked away and I walked back into my office without saying anything to the girls or looking over to them.
No more. No more will I ignore or walk by someone that I know has lost a spouse. Sometimes we just want a hug without asking for one. Sometimes we just need someone to come up to us and take that initiative. And the great thing about hugs is, the very great thing about hugs is, is that when you hug someone, you get a hug back. :-)
KK
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Comment by judy on November 28, 2012 at 2:33pm
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That is so beautiful! I love you Kim - you made me smile today when I didn't feel like smiling.
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Comment by rookie on November 28, 2012 at 2:02pm -
Amazing! Thank you.
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Comment by mamatrees on August 8, 2012 at 7:00pm -
This is sooooooooooooooooo beautiful!!!!!!!
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Comment by Poppys Girl on August 5, 2012 at 10:01pm -
I sure miss the hugs, any human contact...it's like I have something contagious...maybe it's the sorrow they see in me, don't know. Thank you for sharing. I too will offer a hug.
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Comment by Barbie Doll on August 5, 2012 at 9:50pm -
Beautiful!!
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Comment by hendrixx2 on August 5, 2012 at 1:52pm -
hi KK,
I'm only going to say that you have provided the example for our ever present question about ourselves; proving that we can do enough....thanx so much!
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Comment by shayne on August 4, 2012 at 5:59pm -
Hugs were a part of every day with my husband and no longer having those strong arms to hold me are really tough; but you are wonderful in offering that gentleman a hug and I applaud you for your gift of giving of yourself- makes me think of offering more hugs also!
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Comment by bad ass widow on August 4, 2012 at 1:38pm -
Thank you Kim. Sometimes all it takes is a kind touch or word to make another persons day or week.
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Comment by cec on August 4, 2012 at 12:30pm -
Awe Kim you are so sweet
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Comment by suebru (Sue) on August 4, 2012 at 12:39am -
Kim, I loved this! You are such a compassionate soul-can't wait to meet you. I bet that hug meant the world to your customer and made his is day, big time!
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