Drewlady/Confident Widow My husband Passed Away but not My Common Sense

Good evening All. I want to begin by joining with all of you in remembering the widows,widowers, children and family members of the victims of September 11.

Had a nice time again in Miami for 6 days . Trip began three days after Miami got 5 inches of rain.  Golf and tennis benefit  That is after I cry on the plane. I still do that, always wish I could reach out and touch the clouds maybe touch Drew ? Always get the window seat. And damn it's hard to go places where we had a ball. last year was my first time to Miami. April was my first time back to Myrtle Beach.

 Breathtaking Trump golf hotel resort.  Leave it to Mr.Trump to make sure the  courses, courts, biking paths, pools were in great shape. Slooowly improving my golf game but the outfits are so cute and it is a fun and low key way to meet new folks. And the ladies golf and tennis  shop there is the best .Of course there were shuttles to all the malls as well.

Went again with a couple of Soros and met cousins and their hubbys there who are all very good golfers. Also had fun with folks I meet last year and emailed all year.Met widows and of course chatted up all the wonderful resources out there for us. ! Lots of social events , mixers, cocktail parties and celeb sightings, always exciting.Shout out to Rodney Green Golf he and his instructors so kind and patient. Each day half of us playing were singles. More new people to talk to. ! And a great  instructor (widow) Debbie cant leave you out. RN who is making her golf dream come true.

Spa and exercise too felt like nothing could get me down until...  requests from men- married- i knew most of them  , divorced and some 2x divorced i knew them also  and widowers none there last year requests not to sit and talk at my Starbucks table, or how about a game of chess  or even a dance (fast ) . NOoooo may I walk you to your lodge  and sit in the lobby and WATCH  TV huh ??    This must be the new pick up line because that  what is happening at home also.But back home they ask for the address and we have just met . Am I really stucK in the seventies like my kids think > Or am I being old fashioned. WATCH TV ??? And if they are hoping to go from the lobby to my room they will find out how old fashioned I am. How insulting !!

I'm not blind there were some "hook ups' for those days and nights and consenting adults can do what they wish. I have never been casual about sex. And now there is Hiv etc !! Some  women who have been widowed or divorced longer than my three years tell me 'its a new day.' or "You'll be home a lot or out with your group -the strays. Going out with your gang of 20."

Well so be it !!  After I declined their invitations they barely spoke and thats ok. One widower did speak that last night "why dont we have some fun before we go back to our dull lives what lodge are you in  ? So we can WATCH TV." No mention of lobby this time. I didnt answer. Before he walked  correction ran away he added" the ladies on The View said that's why a lot of single women take these trips to enjoy what years they have left." I dont watch The View I am so busy with my exciting life" I answered.   So busy loooking for a coffee pot to throw at him is what I really wanted to say. !!!

                                                                                                       Take care, Drewlady